H and I were married in May at the court house, in our home city of Chicago. It was great! We wanted it to be really small, so it was. Our parents did not want that, so the compromise is my mom throwing us a celebration party in the state where we grew up (East Coast) in September so that we can celebrate with family and friends. I'm really excited, and it will be the first time I'm headed to the state where I grew up since moving to Chi to be with H.
One of the people that I invited is my friend from college, Kristin, who very likely has mild autism/Aspergers. Since receiving the invitation, she's done nothing but pepper me with questions, such as:
1) Is anyone else that she likes (her words) invited? (nope)
2) Why can't I had invited more people that she was friends with? (they weren't my friends, and my mom is hosting, it would be rude)
3) Really, why can't I just invite at least one person she's friends with? (my mom gave all unattached guests +1s.......)
4) How is she getting to the party? (I don't know, she doesn't drive and lives 2 hours away)
5) Can I go pick her up and then drive her home? (no. I'm in town for <48 hours, haven't seen friends in over a year, and will be flying in so I won't have a car with me.)
6) Am I sure, absolutely SURE that I can't invite her bestie? (yes.)
7) My parents are hosting, so they totally have extra money and time--they can go pick her up, right??? (I threw my phone at the wall when I saw this one)
Etc. It's gone on for two weeks now, and I'm at my wit's end. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to keep answering her questions, which I've done in a polite and increasingly firm way (explaining why I can't, and then saying no, and then saying that the subject is closed). But it's not letting up. I blocked her number from my phone because she was texting me so frequently that the battery was wearing down in the middle of the day. She's begun emailing me, instead, with pleas for more of her friends to be invited and for a ride to the party. I've now begun to stress that she will act like that, continuously, while at the party. She's never acted like this before, so I had no indication that this behavior would come up. She has always been a little "off", but I chalked it up to social awkwardness.
This is stressing me out beyond belief, and short of telling her not to contact me (or not to come to the party, which is what I'm hoping she decides to do anyway), I have no idea what to do.