So I'm in a wedding that is being planned fairly quickly. I'm OOT from the bride and all the other BMs and family. I got married in May and prior to my friend setting a date and asking me to be in the wedding, had a honeymoon, trip with H's family, a work trip, and a big work project due; along with two other family weddings (OOT for me), all planned.
I offered to throw a shower for the bride (I'm one of the MOHs) on a weekend I would be in town. She declined because she thought it was too close to the wedding. I told bride that with everything that was already planned I probably wouldn't make it back another time but would be happy to help plan and do anything from far away. She was hurt I couldn't make it back. Her sister and mother began planning a shower. Another BM and I reached out to sister to see if/what they needed help with. BM was told she could do the invitations and we were both asked to contribute $100 to food. But that they had everything else covered and didn't need much help.
So my question is; I was planning to contribute anyway, but I feel kind of insulted/bad that I'm being asked for money, but told they don't want/need any help or input. What would you Knotties do or say to the request for cash?