So, I'm in the beginning stages of wedding planning. My future in-laws are very nice people, don't get me wrong, but, they are VERY cheap. That's normally not an issue because it's their decision to make and their way of life. But, I know traditionally the groom's parents plan and pay for the rehearsal dinner. I would really love to be able to plan my own location (because it will be on-site of my venue more then likely). I know that they will not pay for that though. They will take us to a local pizza joint and pre-order a few large pizzas, a salad, and water for everyone to share (they have already hinted at this, so I'm not assuming, I know this is the plan). My wedding is going to be at a very nice location and I would love for the rehearsal dinner to be as well... Would it be rude or inappropriate to say something along the lines of: "I greatly appreciate you wanting to help pay for the wedding. It means so much to me! But, I have a location in mind for the rehearsal dinner already. It's on site of the venue and I know it's a little more expensive than a normal rehearsal dinner, so I would never ask you to pay for all of that. I think that giving us a monetary value of whatever you're wanting to contribute would benefit us the most. Thank you so much!" My mom says "Mmm, although ideal, that's not how it's done," but what do you all think? I need help!!