Groom, Groomsmen, and FOB Attire: Tux or Suits? (In relation to bride and bridesmaid attire/venue)

Knottie1430241333

Hi Everyone! I'm in the process of deciding between Tux and Suits. My fiancé mentioned he would like to wear a tux, but also stated he would be fine wearing whatever coordinated best with my dress and the formality of the wedding. My gut tells me black suits for the groom, groomsmen, and my dad would be better (based on ceremony location and bridesmaids/my moms dress)... but I do want my fiancé to also feel his best during our wedding. A second opinion would be appreciated. Thank you!

Wedding Details:

• 4:30 pm ceremony in courtyard/garden of venue
• Guest attire is semiformal/cocktail preferred
  

Attached photo is of my wedding dress, bridesmaids attire, and my mother's dress. 

justsie

Knottie1430241333 said:

Hi Everyone! I'm in the process of deciding between Tux and Suits. My fiancé mentioned he would like to wear a tux, but also stated he would be fine wearing whatever coordinated best with my dress and the formality of the wedding. My gut tells me black suits for the groom, groomsmen, and my dad would be better (based on ceremony location and bridesmaids/my moms dress)... but I do want my fiancé to also feel his best during our wedding. A second opinion would be appreciated. Thank you!

Wedding Details:

• 4:30 pm ceremony in courtyard/garden of venue
• Guest attire is semiformal/cocktail preferred
  

Attached photo is of my wedding dress, bridesmaids attire, and my mother's dress. 

I would say suits for the groomsmen and your FI. You should, however, not be telling your guests what to wear if it is not a black tie event. 

lachattefatale

Yup, suits. But if he wants to wear a tux, I would let him.

I'm going to go ahead and assume the dresscode is only given to guests if they ask, not mandated on the invitations or anything.

Knottie1430241333

Thanks, Suits it is! And you're correct lachattefatale, I actually had the attire section removed before my invitations were printed. I do have it included on my knot wedding website as I was just filling in all the sections haha. Do you think it would be best to remove that also? I could care less about what guests where, I was just worried because the venue itself has a business dress code. I'm assuming it's not enforced on wedding guests, but I would feel horrible if someone said something or was rude towards a guest.

lachattefatale

Knottie1430241333 said:

Thanks, Suits it is! And you're correct lachattefatale, I actually had the attire section removed before my invitations were printed. I do have it included on my knot wedding website as I was just filling in all the sections haha. Do you think it would be best to remove that also? I could care less about what guests where, I was just worried because the venue itself has a business dress code. I'm assuming it's not enforced on wedding guests, but I would feel horrible if someone said something or was rude towards a guest.

I think the bolded makes it okay to leave on the website.I know in my family, at least, there are a couple of people who wear sweats to everything. If the venue has a website, you could link to that and let it explain its own dresscode, or you could say something like, "Le Venue's dresscode is X" instead of dictating it directly.

Viczaesar

Knottie1430241333 said:

Thanks, Suits it is! And you're correct lachattefatale, I actually had the attire section removed before my invitations were printed. I do have it included on my knot wedding website as I was just filling in all the sections haha. Do you think it would be best to remove that also? I could care less about what guests where, I was just worried because the venue itself has a business dress code. I'm assuming it's not enforced on wedding guests, but I would feel horrible if someone said something or was rude towards a guest.

What is the actual dress code of your venue?  There are only two times when you can indicate a dress code to guests - when you're having a true black tie event, or when your venue has attire requirements.  But I have a feeling that your venue's dress code is not "semi-formal/cocktail preferred."  What you should say is "Venue X's dress code is [actual dress code]," e.g. "Grand High Poobah Country Club requires coat and tie." That way you're conveying the information but making it clear that the requirement comes from the venue, not you. 

Maggie0829

If your venue has an actual dress code then I would definitely mention that on your website.  And if their dress code is "business attire" then I would ask the venue to provide examples of what that means or what the actual excludes so you can explain it a bit more clear to your guests.

I think suits would be best for your groom and GM.  I feel like a tux would just be to dressy compared to the rest of your bridal parties attire.  Your Dad is free to wear whatever he wants since he is not part of the wedding party.  You could just tell him that the guys are wearing suits and let him decide from there what he wants to wear.

And your dress is freaking gorgeous!!

lembaslover

Honestly if your fiance wants to wear a Tux I would let him wear a tux and choose it. In my opinion you get to pick your dress so why shouldn't he get to pick what makes him feel best. Men's Wearhouse had some tuxes that looked more suit-like so you could probably find a tux that matches the formality of your dresses while still making him feel good in a Tux. Even if he picks a super formal tux at the end of the day I really don't think anyone will care.

CMGragain

engagedhamstermom said:

Honestly if your fiance wants to wear a Tux I would let him wear a tux and choose it. In my opinion you get to pick your dress so why shouldn't he get to pick what makes him feel best. Men's Wearhouse had some tuxes that looked more suit-like so you could probably find a tux that matches the formality of your dresses while still making him feel good in a Tux. Even if he picks a super formal tux at the end of the day I really don't think anyone will care.

All tuxedos are the same level of formality.