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Am I over thinking?

aliwis000aliwis000 member
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Hello everyone!

You have all been a great help to me and I know you will help me get my head on straight again.

I had my envelopes for wedding invites done by a calligrapher. I just got them back and they look great!

While reviewing each one with my FI tonight we noticed that one of the envelopes was wrong and my FI forgot to add someone to the guest list! (Both our fault, not the calligraphers fault, she followed the information we gave her to a 'T')

So my question is this. Do I need to send 2 envelopes back to the calligrapher (by mail) ask her for the 2 I need, then wait to get them back all for a decent amount of money because there is a minimum dollar amount per order OR do I, after much practice, just hand write the 2 addresses myself.

I need to be sending these out next Wednesday so my initial pull is to just write them myself. Do you think this is ok? Will anyone really notice? Once again I would practice and hand write them both they just would not be as super nice as the calligrapher.

Thank you in advance!
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Re: Am I over thinking?

  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5 Answers 500 Love Its
    I would just hand write them myself.






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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I would just write them myself.  Mistakes happen in the wedding planning process.  This is one of those mistakes to fix and move on. 
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  • Liatris2010Liatris2010 mod
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    Write them yourself. The people that get those two arent ever going to see the other envelopes.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
    Fifth Anniversary 2500 Comments 500 Love Its Name Dropper
    Didn't we have this exact question a week or so ago, except it was the calligrapher's fault?


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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Just do them yourself.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Another vote for just doing them yourselves.  I am sure the calligraphy is excellent but as a guest I hardly ever notice or care how the address is written.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Another vote to just write them out yourself.
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  • simcal18simcal18 member
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    Yep. Just write them yourself. I had my envelopes addresses using Minted's addressing service (they print the addresses on the envelopes for you--maybe technically not etiquette approved but IMO a victimless crime). Between names that were too long to fit in their system, addresses that changed, and last minute changes to the guest list, our envelopes were probably 80% printed by Minted, 15% printed by me in a similar (but not identical) font, and 5% handwritten by me not all that gracefully with a regular ballpoint pen because my printer decided to stop printing on envelopes and I was so ready to be done with invitation crap that I gave no fucks about what those last 5% looked like.

    You know who knew that my envelopes were not all matchy matchy? Me. And I suppose the post office, although I doubt they were paying attention given how incompetent they were about actually delivering the darn things promptly and correctly. And I doubt the people who got the envelopes with the regular handwriting noticed or cared that they weren't done in pretty calligraphy. Think about the last three wedding invitations you received. Do you remember the font they were addressed in? Neither will your guests.
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  • aliwis000aliwis000 member
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    Hello everyone!

    Thank you for everything! I knew I was over thinking this one. I have a tendency to do that now and then.

    I am sure nobody but me will notice!

    Thank you again!
     
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