Wedding Recap and Withdrawal

Wedding Thank You Cards

Am I supposed to send thank you cards to people who attended the wedding, but did not bring a gift? If so, any suggestions on wording?

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Re: Wedding Thank You Cards

  • No!  The reception was the thank you for attending the wedding.  A thank you note is to thank someone for a gift.  Sending someone a thank you card who didn't give a gift appears as if you are pointing out that they didn't give you a gift.

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    [QUOTE]No!  The reception was the thank you for attending the wedding.  A thank you note is to thank someone for a gift.  Sending someone a thank you card who didn't give a gift appears as if you are pointing out that they didn't give you a gift.
    Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

    Ditto to this. And if you send a thank you note for attending and their gift is in the mail, you are going to feel really silly.
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  • Thank yous are only for gifts.  If you send a thank you for attendance, it may come off as passive aggressive fishing for gifts.  Definitely a statement you don't want to make.
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  • You don't have to but we did. We sent out photo thank you cards to all our guests (whether they gave a gift or not). While we did thank guests for their gifts, the ones that did not give one we just said something along the lines of "Thank you for being a part of our special day. Your presence was greatly appreciated." No one to my knowledge felt we were looking for a gift (the guests that didn't give anything), they were just happy to get a picture.
  • I'm not sure if you have to, I opted to because people still made time in their lives to share the day with us. Plus the two people we didn't get gifts from were groomsmen and I thought I should thank them again for being a special part of our wedding being groomsmen and all. 
  • I am getting married in September, but have recently starting to receive gifts through the mail. Am I supposed to wait until after the wedding to send out thank you letters? Or send them out as they come? 
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    Send them out as they come, so that people know that you received their gifts.
  • This is actually a great question.  I have a guest who attended my wedding, but didn't bring a gift.  I am going to do my thank you notes this weekend, and since this guest traveled a couple hours to come to my wedding, I was thinking of saying something along the lines of "Thank you for making the trip!  I'm so happy you could be there for our special day!"
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