Not A Catholic Mass But Similar...

NicRen17

First let me mention that my FI and are not having a Catholic Mass wedding. We are having an Episcopal wedding in the church with a full service and communion. 

FI and I were both raised Catholic (him far longer than I). We both received our first baptismal and communion through the Catholic church.

When FI and I got engaged and we were discussing what kind of wedding we would like, he was insistent on a church wedding. I knew a rector from my profession whom I originally approached for guidance on our wants for our marriage but quickly came down to wanting him to perform the ceremony.

We have joined his church and have participated in all the requirements that the church has for participating in communion and for the wedding. This is a church that we are fully on continuing participation with and raising our families in. 

I am currently in the process of designing our invitations and looking for the correct and appropriate wording for the mass and the communion. We are having the first Episcopalian service with the Eucharist involved. I know there is specific wording for a Catholic church wedding with these are involved (like the Nuptial Mass and received the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony). I want to word my invites appropriately so that my non-active Catholic and non-religious guests will have an idea of what to expect. 

Is this ok for me to use for my wedding or would I be side-eyed and disrespectful? Thank you!

*Our families are both non-practicing Catholics and do not have a "home" church. I can't even tell you the last time either set has even stepped into a church. I understand that having a Catholic background and not getting married in a Catholic church is not going to be considered valid in the eyes of a Catholic church. We have discussed that and are willing to continue the route we are on.*

photokitty

NicRen17 said:

First let me mention that my FI and are not having a Catholic Mass wedding. We are having an Episcopal wedding in the church with a full service and communion. 

FI and I were both raised Catholic (him far longer than I). We both received our first baptismal and communion through the Catholic church.

When FI and I got engaged and we were discussing what kind of wedding we would like, he was insistent on a church wedding. I knew a rector from my profession whom I originally approached for guidance on our wants for our marriage but quickly came down to wanting him to perform the ceremony.

We have joined his church and have participated in all the requirements that the church has for participating in communion and for the wedding. This is a church that we are fully on continuing participation with and raising our families in. 

I am currently in the process of designing our invitations and looking for the correct and appropriate wording for the mass and the communion. We are having the first Episcopalian service with the Eucharist involved. I know there is specific wording for a Catholic church wedding with these are involved (like the Nuptial Mass and received the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony). I want to word my invites appropriately so that my non-active Catholic and non-religious guests will have an idea of what to expect. 

Is this ok for me to use for my wedding or would I be side-eyed and disrespectful? Thank you!

*Our families are both non-practicing Catholics and do not have a "home" church. I can't even tell you the last time either set has even stepped into a church. I understand that having a Catholic background and not getting married in a Catholic church is not going to be considered valid in the eyes of a Catholic church. We have discussed that and are willing to continue the route we are on.*

I'm confused. What do want them to expect? 

The invitation wording for any church ceremony is typically:

The honour of your presence is requested
at the marriage of
Bride's Full Name
and
Groom's Full Name
Saturday, the twenty-first of November
two thousand fifteen
at three o'clock
Saint Whoosit's Episcopal Church
123 Maple Street
Any town, State

The bolded and the name of the church indicate that the ceremony is being held in a church. Your invite does not need to indicate if communion will be part of the ceremony. 

NicRen17

That's how my invite currently reads. None of our families have been to a full mass with communion in a wedding as long as I know (almost 25-30 years). My mom had a Catholic wedding but I don't think she had a full mass or communion. I just wanted to make sure that I respected any wording or symbolism that etiquette-ly should be portrayed. 

May be I am reading too much into it. I plan on mentioning it to my Pastor at our next nuptial meeting. I was told that if it was a Catholic Mass with Communion that the wording should include Nuptial Mass and Holy Sacraments. I wasn't sure if that was applicable for the Episcopalian Mass or not.

Thanks for answering!

photokitty

You can add that info in for a Catholic mass, but I have never seen that for any other denomination. 

You might want to ask your question on the "invitations and paper" board, they are great with invite wording and the reasons behind it. I can move it there if you want.

NicRen17

Thank you. No need to move it. I posted previously in the I&P board, you might have commented already on mine actually. I will probably wait until I meet with my Pastor for any clarification from him. I am just too excited to design my invites and such! Getting ahead of myself a little. ;-)