Brief history of my better half and myself:
Girl meets girl online in 2003 at the young ages of 13/14. Girl and girl talk for years before meeting in 2008. Girl and girl date for a year before becoming engaged. Girl comes out to girl as female to male transgender. Girl loves and supports boy. Girl and boy (in closet as "lesbian girl" from anyone besides fiancee) decide to get married in 2010 while visiting friends in the town they met face to face, sitting in a little rock n roll café with a JOP and girl's two best friends as witnesses with the Beatles playing in the background. Girl's only regret with unplanned eloping is not ordering the burger boy ordered after signing papers because that shit was delicious.
Fast forward to end of 2013. Boy still in closet. Girl and boy go through a very rough patch and seperate for a few months. Girl and boy get back together in 2014, and boy comes out to everyone as male. Boy has a very stressful year with unsupportive family, and being intentionally misgendered. Boy starts transition journey in 2015, including testosterone and legal name change.
Basically, the last year and a half has been very life changing and stressful for both of us and we'd like to reaffirm our commitment to eachother in 2016.
I've read so many different websites on what to do/what not to do and feel like my brain has turned to mush from all of it and was hoping to get some questions answered.
1) Does anyone stand beside the couple while the vows are being said? I'm uncomfortable calling them bridesmaids/groomsmen because we are no longer bride/groom and it's not a wedding.
2) Would it be frowned upon to have someone walk each of us to the spot the vows are being said?
3) Does a renewal take place on your anniversary?
4) Favors for guests, yes or no?