Office Showers

BecauseYouAre

My office loves a party, and is throwing a bridal shower for one of my peers next week. I normally wouldnt think twice about it but with my own nuptuals in the near future it got me thinking etiquitte wise. How does etiuqette apply to these events?

AddieCake

For sure don't go naked. Other than that, you're going to have to be more specific with your question.

photokitty

Everyone who gets you a gift, group or individual, gets their own personalized thank you note. Not a blanket thank you note posted on the break room.

JoanE2012

Are you asking about the etiquette of inviting people who attend pre-wedding events to the wedding?  If so, work showers are generally excluded.  If your colleagues throw you a shower, send thank yous, but don't feel obligated to invite them to the wedding.  For any other non-work shower or pre-wedding event, only those invited to the wedding should be invited to showers/pre-wedding events.

If this is not what you're asking, you need to be a bit more clear in what you're looking for.

WinstonsGirl

photokitty said:

Everyone who gets you a gift, group or individual, gets their own personalized thank you note. Not a blanket thank you note posted on the break room.

Unless it's a communal gift (not a shower thing).  My work wedding gift from work was from the gift fund that we all pay into at the beginning of each year.  I wasn't writing out 80+ notes cos everyone chipped in $20 in Sept that goes for everybody from weddings to babies to goodbye gifts.  

But yes, for showers, everyone there who got you something gets one.  

thefanciestbeckler

I'm assuming you are asking if everyone who attends should be invited to the wedding.

Nope! I work at the main office of a regional bank. My department is throwing me a shower and has invited the whole main office (200+ people). Needless to say, I won't be inviting every person who comes to the work shower! I will be writing everyone who attends a personalized thank you note though.

I did opt to invite my department because we are very close, but that is not required either.

NowIAmSyp

I just had my work shower yesterday!  They completely, completely got me- I was SO surprised- and so thrilled! 

And, your question was vague, but I think the questions you are thinking of were answered by PP's:

- not everyone who attends your work shower needs to be invited to your wedding

- everyone who gives a gift- whether an individual gift, or communal- gets a personalized thank you note

Have fun!