We are not registering for gifts and I have asked those closest to me NOT to plan a shower of any kind.
However, my mother said that family members are starting to ask about showers and seem upset that there won't be one. She suggested that she and my sister could host a luncheon in the local tea room for the ladies in the families. This would be a no gift event.
I love the idea of spending an afternoon with them, but we are just concerned with how to word the invitation. We want to make it clear that this lunch is NOT a shower, but my mom still wants to include the traditional wording that the lunch is "in honor of kdg" so that the more traditional ladies will see this as being in place of the shower.
I know we cannot dictate "no gifts" but I just don't want this to be an awkward situation for my guests if they show up expecting shower games and a gift opening.