Work Vent

lovemesomemonster

I got a new boss a couple of months ago and he seemed like he would be easy to work with and kept saying that he's pretty hands off. Flash forward to now, I am about to lose it! I am in a new position but so is he, I think he's trying to prove himself and show that he's SUPER detail oriented. Everything I do he makes adjustments and then basically puts it right back how I had it. 

Today just tops the cake, he's IMing me about a process I put together and making suggestions. The conversation is going about like this:

"we should make it look like X"

"Ok, so you mean like I have on slide 3?"

"Oh yes, that is it"

"OK"

"and we need a quick win so we should start with Y"

"so you mean the first thing I have listed on the timeline?"

"Oh, yes"

GREAT.. now that we have that covered, leave me alone and let me do my job! 

Anyone else frustrated with work today? 

ShesSoCold

lovemesomemonster said:

I got a new boss a couple of months ago and he seemed like he would be easy to work with and kept saying that he's pretty hands off. Flash forward to now, I am about to lose it! I am in a new position but so is he, I think he's trying to prove himself and show that he's SUPER detail oriented. Everything I do he makes adjustments and then basically puts it right back how I had it. 

Today just tops the cake, he's IMing me about a process I put together and making suggestions. The conversation is going about like this:

"we should make it look like X"

"Ok, so you mean like I have on slide 3?"

"Oh yes, that is it"

"OK"

"and we need a quick win so we should start with Y"

"so you mean the first thing I have listed on the timeline?"

"Oh, yes"

GREAT.. now that we have that covered, leave me alone and let me do my job! 

Anyone else frustrated with work today? 

All day every day. 

The boss' assistant and I share a tall cube wall. So she talks to me. She is the most work insecure person I have ever met. I have an area in my cube where everyone puts their outgoing FedEx envelopes. She'll wander over, say, "oh, fedex goes here? Oh. Okay. I just. Okay. This good here? Okay. Yeah. I just. Okay. This will....okay. Someone will see....okay. Okay". All in one long rambley ramble before I'll cut her off and say, "yeah that's fine, we'll take it".She's like that with ever. single. thing. she does. GAH.

Edited for typo.

lyndausvi

Ugh, my boss can't seem to keep front desk people.  Another one just quit. A week after another one quit. I liked both of these guys.  It's so annoying.

I just LOVE people who call up for a reservation and then get all pissy that we are sold out.  Look, I have 19 units. Not a huge inventory to start off with.  You are trying to book during a festival.  I can't help it if other people booked before you.    Some of these people ask like I should have held back a room in anticpation that they would be calling wanting to book.

wandajune6

My main contact at our largest (volume, not $) client is the CEO. He's wonderful his goal was to make the organization self-sufficient (and we structured their costs on that assumption). His admin doesn't like to take calls so she handles it by sending my phone/email to every person who asks a question. We have everything you could want online- training materials including videos, password resets, etc. yet she tells doctors to call me if they can't remember their password rather than reminding them that they can reset them through the site.

I run Client Services. Our company may be small but I have people working for me who are supposed to handle these things. She knows this and has met them. She also knows that her CEO/boss does not want her sending these things to us. It's just easier to rattle off/email my info than to think.

[Deleted User]

One of our top guys keeps hiring people before their pre-hire checks are done.  I'm going to have to go to the VP of HR now and she'll have to talk to him b/c he won't listen to me (supervisor), and a manager doesn't think he'll listen to her either.

We're pretty sure one guy who they started on Monday doesn't have the HSD he claimed to have.  This is why you don't hire people before the pre-hire checks are required.

peachy13

Sorry OP. If it makes you feel any better, your relationship with your boss reminds me of my relationship my boss. Started off fine then went sour a few months later. We weren't syncing at all and it took probably six months or so until we finally figured out how to work with each other. It's been 2 1/2 years now and all is good. 

My work (and wedding-related) vent? My cubicle neighbor. Always a bridesmaid never a bride (she literally refers to herself as that). Now with 2 1/2 months leading up my wedding, all she does is talk weddings and ask me questions about details (she is invited). But it's not like she responds to my answers with oos and ahhs. Instead she responds with cynicism and/or unsolicited advice. On top of that, she treats me like I'm a child bride just because she's a whopping 6 years older than me. I'm 29. She'll say things like "if I got married when I was your age I'd probably have a huge wedding party too." "You invited 80 people to your shower??? Oh, you're so young and adorable."

ShesSoCold

peachy13 said:

Sorry OP. If it makes you feel any better, your relationship with your boss reminds me of my relationship my boss. Started off fine then went sour a few months later. We weren't syncing at all and it took probably six months or so until we finally figured out how to work with each other. It's been 2 1/2 years now and all is good. 

My work (and wedding-related) vent? My cubicle neighbor. Always a bridesmaid never a bride (she literally refers to herself as that). Now with 2 1/2 months leading up my wedding, all she does is talk weddings and ask me questions about details (she is invited). But it's not like she responds to my answers with oos and ahhs. Instead she responds with cynicism and/or unsolicited advice. On top of that, she treats me like I'm a child bride just because she's a whopping 6 years older than me. I'm 29. She'll say things like "if I got married when I was your age I'd probably have a huge wedding party too." "You invited 80 people to your shower??? Oh, you're so young and adorable."

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhh I hate the "you're young" from coworkers, on any subject. Coincidentally, I went to high school with previously mentioned annoying coworker's son. He's, how do I put this...not exactly a winner, but NBD. The other day we were talking about money and credit cards and stuff and she kept telling me how great I was for being "so young" and not having my head lodged in my ass. I feel like I'm behind financially and 27 isn't young enough for age to be an excuse to be stupid, IMHO.

loveislouder

My work related vent is that in my 3 assistant office, my boss pays particular attention to one assistant and does whatever she asks because he's afraid he'll lose her. She has no problem putting in over time during the summer and working weekends to get stuff done, and he doesn't want to hire a second person to cover the extra time she puts in so he literally bends to her every whim. 

I'm not demanding unnecessary attention, but my files need to be advocated for too.

[Deleted User]

My work related vent could be a novel, but most recently I am really annoyed with my boss, who refuses to tell me whether or not I am supposed to go to Barcelona in September to work at a convention. Like a normal human, I'd like to know if I am traveling internationally in a month, and I've been asking him for about 4 weeks to no avail. More pressing is the fact that I do not have a passport, and at this point I will need to get it expedited, but I am not just going to get it expedited if I am not going!!! I can't decide if I should just straight-up ask him if he plans to send me, but I feel like asking will make it seem like I really want to go (I don't.) Going on these trips is usually supposed to be a "treat" for employees (who aren't in marketing), but because I don't get to just have fun like everyone else, I'd rather stay home and work normal hours!

anjemon

abcdevonn said:

My work related vent could be a novel, but most recently I am really annoyed with my boss, who refuses to tell me whether or not I am supposed to go to Barcelona in September to work at a convention. Like a normal human, I'd like to know if I am traveling internationally in a month, and I've been asking him for about 4 weeks to no avail. More pressing is the fact that I do not have a passport, and at this point I will need to get it expedited, but I am not just going to get it expedited if I am not going!!! I can't decide if I should just straight-up ask him if he plans to send me, but I feel like asking will make it seem like I really want to go (I don't.) Going on these trips is usually supposed to be a "treat" for employees (who aren't in marketing), but because I don't get to just have fun like everyone else, I'd rather stay home and work normal hours!

I was just about to tell you that you should say something about the passport to your boss so he would make a decision. But then I figured out that if you don't say anything and don't get a passport you won't have to go, problem solved! It's hard to send you out of the country on a few week's notice without a passport...

[Deleted User]

anjemon said:

abcdevonn said:

My work related vent could be a novel, but most recently I am really annoyed with my boss, who refuses to tell me whether or not I am supposed to go to Barcelona in September to work at a convention. Like a normal human, I'd like to know if I am traveling internationally in a month, and I've been asking him for about 4 weeks to no avail. More pressing is the fact that I do not have a passport, and at this point I will need to get it expedited, but I am not just going to get it expedited if I am not going!!! I can't decide if I should just straight-up ask him if he plans to send me, but I feel like asking will make it seem like I really want to go (I don't.) Going on these trips is usually supposed to be a "treat" for employees (who aren't in marketing), but because I don't get to just have fun like everyone else, I'd rather stay home and work normal hours!

I was just about to tell you that you should say something about the passport to your boss so he would make a decision. But then I figured out that if you don't say anything and don't get a passport you won't have to go, problem solved! It's hard to send you out of the country on a few week's notice without a passport...

That's kind of what I was thinking, but I also don't want to be "that" person who is somehow dropping the ball by not being prepared for this. I know in actuality that I can't prepare for something I don't even know about, but since it's a possibility...idk. I'm sure they'd be like "you should have known!"

ETF: Double quote

teddygirl9

Haha at least your boss seems technologically competent. Mine, less so. Whenever we do presentations he makes me print them out, he hand writes notes and gives them back to me. I have to interpret them and then actually give the directions on what to fix :S Like 3 extra steps in changing the tiniest thing haha.

teddygirl9

abcdevonn said:

anjemon said:

abcdevonn said:

My work related vent could be a novel, but most recently I am really annoyed with my boss, who refuses to tell me whether or not I am supposed to go to Barcelona in September to work at a convention. Like a normal human, I'd like to know if I am traveling internationally in a month, and I've been asking him for about 4 weeks to no avail. More pressing is the fact that I do not have a passport, and at this point I will need to get it expedited, but I am not just going to get it expedited if I am not going!!! I can't decide if I should just straight-up ask him if he plans to send me, but I feel like asking will make it seem like I really want to go (I don't.) Going on these trips is usually supposed to be a "treat" for employees (who aren't in marketing), but because I don't get to just have fun like everyone else, I'd rather stay home and work normal hours!

I was just about to tell you that you should say something about the passport to your boss so he would make a decision. But then I figured out that if you don't say anything and don't get a passport you won't have to go, problem solved! It's hard to send you out of the country on a few week's notice without a passport...

That's kind of what I was thinking, but I also don't want to be "that" person who is somehow dropping the ball by not being prepared for this. I know in actuality that I can't prepare for something I don't even know about, but since it's a possibility...idk. I'm sure they'd be like "you should have known!"

ETF: Double quote

Omg, you need to be like 'YO BOSS, can you tell me if I'm going or not, I need to get a passport expedited if so. Otherwise, I will order it at regular speed, and it will take 7 months and I won't be able to go'

 

BUt seriously, barcelona is awesome. even if youre working

nhultberg461

I work with a male who talks down to all women. And you can't talk to him about anything he gets defensive. I've talked to my boss about him many times. Plus I have to finish month end spreadsheets and reports. And my phone keeps putting different words for spell check

sal2015

A few weeks ago, I would have had an incredibly long list of work vents. My poor DH could tell you that after all my venting to him. Amazingly, something must have changed, because things are going really well right now. Of course, now that I've written that, something will happen and I will have plenty to vent about. I'm really liking the way my project is going and only one co-working annoying, so I'm grateful!

anjemon

Okay, my work vent just reared it's ugly head again. The project manager for one of my projects 1.) is gone on vacation when important things are happening and 2.) Won't make decisions.

One of my coworkers and I have been going round and round trying to come up with a decision on an issue. It would be so much easier if we had a decision from Marketing/Regulatory/the PM on what inputs we have. But no, instead we are just throwing the net wide hoping to catch all the possibilities that could happen. And my PM is out of town all week. He was out two months ago when we had a big review meeting. If he had made a decision before he left that would be one thing, but instead we're just spinning our wheels and waiting for someone, anyone to make a decision.

I would totally have made that decision if I had the power to. But I don't Also the knowledge. I don't really have the knowledge either.

ETF: Spelling

lovemesomemonster

abcdevonn said:

My work related vent could be a novel, but most recently I am really annoyed with my boss, who refuses to tell me whether or not I am supposed to go to Barcelona in September to work at a convention. Like a normal human, I'd like to know if I am traveling internationally in a month, and I've been asking him for about 4 weeks to no avail. More pressing is the fact that I do not have a passport, and at this point I will need to get it expedited, but I am not just going to get it expedited if I am not going!!! I can't decide if I should just straight-up ask him if he plans to send me, but I feel like asking will make it seem like I really want to go (I don't.) Going on these trips is usually supposed to be a "treat" for employees (who aren't in marketing), but because I don't get to just have fun like everyone else, I'd rather stay home and work normal hours!

This sounds like last year for me! I got a call and they just said "how would you feel about going to Singapore for 6 weeks" and I said heck yeah! Then they proceed to go back and forth about if they are going to do it or not, and finally call me 2 WEEKS before to inform me of all the medical awesomeness I need to get done before getting the Visa I need to go. They got lucky, I have no kids and FI was working in another state, my dad also agreed to take the dog. So I got two weeks notice to get the medical stuff done, fill out all paperwork, get the international insurance papers filled out, and pack to work in Singapore for 6 weeks. When I came back I had a month before they sent me to Taiwan for a month, then had two weeks between that and the UK for a month, I was exhausted by the time December rolled around. Good luck, and I hope it all works out the way you want it to!

NowIamMrsKlein

I'm not sure what the correct terminology is for our work structure, but the work basically 'flows down' from the top. The field crews do the work, then the drafting guys draft the work, then they pass it to the managers to approve the work who then pass it along to me to invoice the work. And repeat.

Right now two 'mid phase' people are out of office. So none of the work that gets completed trickles down to me. So I am sitting at work twiddling my thumbs for 8 hours (While trying to figure out creative ways to fill out my time sheet) knowing that once these people get back I'm suddenly going to get a massive influx of work.

8 hours goes by so slowly when you have absolutely nothing to do. I really wish that I was earlier in the wedding planning stage because I could easily have used this extra time a couple months ago to get things done.

Im also really annoyed that my boss approved both the mid levelers to be off at the same time. Not very good planning in my mind.

loveislouder

I have another work vent.

One of my co-workers (the same one as above) is falling behind so bossman told me to pick up her slack. Okay, that's fine. A little overtime means more money for me. Except that I do know how to do her job, so she is supposed to put instructions on her files on what needs to be done.  

Well she left me about 15 files so I came in at 6 this morning to get some done, and there was no instructions on anything so I looked through the files, did the reports and other things that I actually knew how to do and I just got the most annoying e-mail from her about how I did all her stuff wrong and how dare I try to put out "sub par" work under her name.

Hold on bitch. 1. It's not under your name, it's got my name on it. 2. If you would have left instructions like you were SUPPOSED to this wouldn't be a problem. 3. I woke up super early and we're out of coffee so I'm already cranky. 

OH! AND she tells my boss that she's in at 7 every day because she has sooooo much work and she claims all that overtime... but she didn't show up until 10 minutes before I usually get here which is frustrating.