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hmonkey

DEAR AMY: About once a month, my wife and I get together with a group of our friends for dinner. Vivian is a girlfriend of Fred's and is nice, but she has a loud, screechy voice.

I deliberately try to sit at a distance from her; sometimes this is not possible. I know Fred is aware of how annoying her voice is (his facial expression sometimes gives it away) but I doubt he has said anything to her.

I would like to say something to Fred. My wife told me to hold off. She says it is rude. I do not want to attend any other gatherings where Vivian is in attendance. What do you advise?

Deaf in Maryland

NOLABridesmaid

How would saying anything really help? If this is something she's been doing for years then good luck with that one.

VarunaTT

He can't stand this for once/month?

GBCK

would he also like to tell her that her hair is ugly and her fingers are stubby?

Some obnoxiousness-es can be helped.  Some just exist.  

Certain voices cause me severe physical pain (the migrainey thing.  It's not all noise--it's certain noises--so the sound of fireworks in the next room, NBD.  The sound of dog toenails on the kitchen floor = agony) and *I* know that saying "youre not allowed to talk" is assy and I can't say it.

(although "inside voices" may occasionally be said to siblings :-P)