I'm 281 days away from my wedding and my mother is already being more of a bridezilla than I ever will be. She is paying for half of the venue and said she would chip in for the other vendors as well as buying my dress. So far these are the things that are irking me:
She has insisted on inviting people that #1 I haven't seen in ages and #2 specifically one person my FI has said he does not want at our wedding. It was supposed to be 100 people max, with my mother's additions Its turned into 107, granted not that much but my FI is the first of 12 and my family is less than 25 including the cousins she wants me to invite. So there is also the bitching about his invites as well "he can't just invite all his family, you should have some people there too"
#2 My father passed away what will be two years ago around the time we are to be married. My mother keeps mentioning that she hopes my brother will pay tribute to him. I have seen the tributes to fathers who have passed away DURING the wedding planning or somewhere very close to the wedding and both my FI and I think, because of my mother's tendency to be over the top, that this will just bring the mood down and we don't want it. We want this to be a party, a celebration, not a time to talk about the dead.
(Please don't get me wrong, I love my dad, he suffered for a very long time and I know he is in a better place, I just don't think a wedding is the place to hold a memorial)
#3 We got engaged June 21st. Mom was going to throw us a little engagement party at the house. But because of schedules and busy lives we couldn't do it till July 25. At that point she pretty much said well that's too late, I'm not doing it. We ended up throwing a BBQ and it was fabulous!
#4 My FI is considerably older than I am (23 years) and my mother was insisting on us being married before the end of the year. Well when we settled on a date for next year she freaked and said she wasn't paying for anything, we were on our own, blah blah blah.... She has since reversed that decision (see above) but that was just one more feather in her boa....
So yeah....mom of bride is making the bride crazy...any advise for me so I can keep the peace, keep my sanity and not have to check into rehab for my honeymoon?