A close friend of mind was recently engaged a few months ago. She sent out messages to friends and family including me that I was invited to the wedding (ask for addresses, etc). Everything was looking fine until the Bride A sent a text asking if was mad at her. Which I was confused and told her no I was not. Then she issues this text,
"Hey Hun, we had to finalize the guest list for the wedding and I'm sorry. I had to cut some of my closest friends out to meet the limit for the venue. You're welcome to come to the engagement party and bridal shower. I feel so bad "
After I got this message, I explained to her about those invited to the wedding party events should be invited to the wedding. It is against etiquette and manners. I told her I am very mad and disappointed; I do not think it is right to invite me to the engagement and wedding shower. She sends no response and then in my other facebook message folders. I found this:
"Hello, my name is V**. I'm A's maid of honor. She sent me the texts you've been sending her. I just want you to understand that she's going through A LOT of emotional stress. This last year hasn't been easy on her. She and I went through everyone on the guest list and since she hasn't seen you in years and you haven't really been all that supportive of her as of lately, we decided that you needed to be cut. You aren't the only one. My godsons mother and long time friend of A++'s is also not invited. She and J*** both have large families which means that sacrifices have to be made. I'm sorry that it hurt your feelings, but you don't need to be rude to her. She's at least trying to make it up to you by inviting you to she shower and engagement party. Which no, they do not require a gift from you. Just your company.
Thank you for your time."
I think it is insane to send your MOH when A can't even respond back to my calls or messages. Responding back that this is not her business, she should leave me alone and have a good night. No, the MOH said, "It is actually my business. I'm in the wedding party. I'm also her best friend of almost 12 years. She asked me to talk to you so you could better understand her situation. But all you're doing is being a total bitch. You're supposed to be her friend, but you're just plain rude. She doesn't need or deserve that. She asked me to talk to you because she's been sick and hasn't been able to deal with stress. And every time she has tried to talk to you, you have been rude. I've been looking at your texts for months now. I said " you are being a total bitch" not that you actually are one. Read. You don't act like a friend. She's asked you to come to Mary Kay parties, you rudely declined. She's inviting you to come to celebrate her wedding, even if it isn't on the day of. And maybe, just maybe if you had been around the past few years since she's been out of school then you would still be on the invite list. But you haven't been one bit supportive since she left school. So in pretty sure I can say and text whatever I want. Especially when I comes to A***. You don't like it, maybe you should apologize for being rude. You ruined this friendship not her. So you can live with that guilt"
I am still very confused because this MOH acts as if she is around whenever I am around with A. RSVP a decline is apparently rude by the way( I had work). I am 100% around for her sickness and emotional problems but I thought when your friend does something that could potentially cause hurt feelings that they would understand if they messed up. I feel I am always there for her emotionally physically that at time I felt I was not good enough because I have been there for so much. As for her showing up to her MK Parties...I mean really that was a big shocker because I had to work.
Short story: I was invited to a wedding, then the Bride cut all the people she messaged from addresses etc and told them they can't come. Instead she invited me(other people) only to the prewedding events and sent her MOH to "talk" to me because I was "wrong" for following etiquette.
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