I am getting married in Sept 2016. I am the last of 3 sisters to marry. I am the middle sister.
My younger sister, E, and I are extermly close. I would call her my best friend and vice versa. We only live 1 town over from one another and see each other often. My older sister, J, lives in another state. We have a somewhat close relationship, but not like E and me. J and I are very different people. We try to see eye to eye, but it is hard at times.
The problem is when J got married many years ago, she asked E and me who would like to be her MOH. E jumped up and said she wanted to do it. We then decided at that point in time E would be Js, I would be Es and J would be mine. At the time it seemed like a very fair idea. Keep in mind this was 15 years ago.
We have followed that deal for the first 2 weddings. Now it's my turn. E now says she she would really love to be my MOH, because we are so close and she's going to be so involved in the planning (her choice, no pressure). I would love it to be that way too, for the same reasons. We are a little shy about bringing this idea up to J. She tends to be quite sensitive and gets upset easily (although this would be a legit reason I do realize). I don't want to upset her and have her unhappy leading up to and at the wedding.
I have suggested to E that J could be the MOH in title, but in spirit and in heart E would be my MOH too. E liked the thought but still wants the title.
Any suggestions on how to handle this? Thanks!