Does everyone need a plus one here?
My FI has 6 bosses (that’s right 6, picture office space
getting annoyed about tps reports by several people several times a day). 5 of
which are married and 1 has a girlfriend. Long story short, he is very good
friends with his boss’s and has been for years (they were friends before he started working for them).
He does not want to invite the boss’s girlfriend to our wedding. He works with
his boss’s girlfriend too.
I do not work with him so everything I’m told is
from his point of view, but from his stories, he has had a rocky relationship
with this girl, they in short, do not get along AT ALL. Not only have him and
the girl never been friends, but he says she has gone out of her way to be rude
to him and to make rude comments about me (I don’t even really know this girl).
I will admit, I’ve visited him at work and she has never been very polite to me
either. I'd wave hello and she'd turn her back to me. It's silly stuff, but when he says people ask him about the wedding at work she'll roll her eyes, make comments under her breath, or just laugh and walk away.
His inclination is to not invite her to the wedding. He thinks as long as we stick with, we only invited people with their SO if they are married (which would be true of the people he knows), then it is ok to leave her name off. His other rationale is “why would she want to come, she has made it clear she doesn’t like us”, but I know his boss wants to come and it feels weird to not invite her with him. I said "we are having a big reception, will you even really notice if she is here if we put him at a table in the back?" And he responded with "Her mere presence annoys me, it our day, I should be able to have who I want there."
How do I make any logic out of this situation? What would you do?