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In this edition of: Really SO? Seriously?

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I just open the closet to put some things in the trash and what do I see?    Cans and bottles in the trash bin.  DH had some staff over last night and was the one who cleaned up after they left.  The recycling bin is RIGHT NEXT TO THE TRASH BIN.  They are actually touching each other.   WTF?  How hard is it go just put them in the correct bin?    Grrr..


anyone else have a SO vent?




 






What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    FI steals my towels all the time. I asked him last night why he always takes my towels and he said "I can't remember which one is mine".

    ..... how?

    ETA: We do not have matching towels, therefore we do not use matching towels. And even if we did.. come on.

  • This cracks me up. Don't worry @lyndausvi you're not alone! It's taken me 3 years of almost-daily reminders to train my DH to put the recycling in the recycling bin. I think he ALMOST has it down, but every now and then I still find perfectly recyclable items in the regular trash.
  • lol H sometimes leaves empty pop cans in the sink. The sink!!! Our recycling bin is like 2 feet away from the sink. Why would an empty pop can ever go there at all?!! 

    and this one is really stupid but it irks me a little when I sort the laundry and then he tosses something into the wrong pile. I just pick it up and throw it in the right pile, so no big deal, but I always think, "Do you REALLY think that white t-shirt goes in that dark blue pile?!!" 
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  • FI steals my towels all the time. I asked him last night why he always takes my towels and he said "I can't remember which one is mine".

    ..... how?

    ETA: We do not have matching towels, therefore we do not use matching towels. And even if we did.. come on.

    DH's towel lives on the bar closest to the shower.  If I remember to put mine closer before I get in the shower I use mine, otherwise I use his and put the dry towel on "his" side afterwards. 

    We are not tiny people, so I registered only for bath sheets.  I have 1 set of smaller towels left, and I use one for my hair.  The other day he gets out of the shower wearing my little hair towel.  WTH??  That one hangs on the back of the door, why even reach there?  He had to be on his way out of the bathroom!

    Him dripping ALL over and never fully drying is an ongoing battle.

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  • Oh and he puts his recyclables in the sink as if I should wash them before they go in the bin!

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  • Funny timing, a friend of mine just posted this on Facebook last night. 

    FI does very similar things.  He leaves his socks all over the damn house.  I even bought a tall basket thing that looks semi-decorative to use for 1st floor laundry so he could stop leaving his clothes all over the floor and couches.  Didn't help.

  • DH loves to leave the vacuum plugged in with the actual vacuum like 20 feet away after he is done.    IDK, how about putting it away?  Nope, he likes to just have a cord strung across the room for someone to trip over.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • lol H sometimes leaves empty pop cans in the sink. The sink!!! Our recycling bin is like 2 feet away from the sink. Why would an empty pop can ever go there at all?!! 

    and this one is really stupid but it irks me a little when I sort the laundry and then he tosses something into the wrong pile. I just pick it up and throw it in the right pile, so no big deal, but I always think, "Do you REALLY think that white t-shirt goes in that dark blue pile?!!" 
    My H goes to all the effort to rinse the cans in the sink (because he doesn't want to get sticky and/or beer-smelling liquid in the bottom of the recycling bin), and then he piles them up NEXT to the sink, instead of just putting them directly in the recycling bin, which is like a whole 4 feet away.
    When we have bigger things to recycle (like gallon jugs or boxes) H will pile them on the floor near the kitchen doorway. The piles get knocked over all the time and then he'll sit there and spend a bunch of time very carefully re-piling. I always tell him that in the time it took to re-pile he could've just walked outside and put everything in the giant recycling bin. (Also who the hell wants a pile of recyclables on their kitchen floor?!)
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  • I love him, but it drives me absolutely batty when H leaves dirty dishes on top of the empty dishwasher.
  • lyndausvi said:
    I just open the closet to put some things in the trash and what do I see?    Cans and bottles in the trash bin.  DH had some staff over last night and was the one who cleaned up after they left.  The recycling bin is RIGHT NEXT TO THE TRASH BIN.  They are actually touching each other.   WTF?  How hard is it go just put them in the correct bin?    Grrr..


    anyone else have a SO vent?




     This reminds me
    This reminds me of our laundry basket.  I bought a 4 bag laundry hamper for our closet.  A bag for any and all whites, a bag for pants/underwear/other dryables, a bag for non-dryables, and a bag for t-shirts (we go through a ton of t-shirts a week).  I told him what goes in what and it is pretty obvious just looking where things go.  I still find white socks in the second bag for the pants and underwear.  I still find white t-shirts in the regular t-shirt bag.  I ask him why and he goes "well they are socks and they are t-shirts."  I just shake my head and say "but they are all white so they go in the white bag regardless of what style they are!"  I think at this point he does it just to annoy me.

  • Oh my H also takes the last pop-tart or granola bar out of the box in the pantry but then LEAVES THE BOX!  Why?!  Why?  Or he takes the box out of the pantry but doesn't throw it away, rather just leaves it on the kitchen island when the trash can is right freaking there!

  • lol H sometimes leaves empty pop cans in the sink. The sink!!! Our recycling bin is like 2 feet away from the sink. Why would an empty pop can ever go there at all?!! 

    and this one is really stupid but it irks me a little when I sort the laundry and then he tosses something into the wrong pile. I just pick it up and throw it in the right pile, so no big deal, but I always think, "Do you REALLY think that white t-shirt goes in that dark blue pile?!!" 
    My H does this with silverware. He rinses the plates and silverware, puts the dishes in the dishwasher, and leaves the silverware in the sink. EVEN THOUGH THE DISHWASHER IS ALREADY OPEN, and right next to the sink. It drives me crazy, only because of how little sense it makes, not because silverware in the sink is an actual problem. I am usually the one responsible for clutter around the house.
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  • lyndausvi said:
    DH loves to leave the vacuum plugged in with the actual vacuum like 20 feet away after he is done.    IDK, how about putting it away?  Nope, he likes to just have a cord strung across the room for someone to trip over.
    But at least he uses the vacuum, right? Can beggars be choosers?
  • I love him, but it drives me absolutely batty when H leaves dirty dishes on top of the empty dishwasher.

    We don't have a dishwasher - well we have two, but they are organic and walk on two legs :-)

    Whenever H does the dishes, he stops before he gets to my blue mason jars, which I like to use for vodka sodas.

    So when I get home from work, the dishes are done - hooray! But not the thing I use for cocktails, which then makes me need a cocktail more (LOL), but I can't because I have to wash the darn thing first! Arrggghhh!

  • Oh my H also takes the last pop-tart or granola bar out of the box in the pantry but then LEAVES THE BOX!  Why?!  Why?  Or he takes the box out of the pantry but doesn't throw it away, rather just leaves it on the kitchen island when the trash can is right freaking there!
    At the club they do that is drives me BATTY.     Every Saturday I come into work and I have to throw a shit ton of empty boxes away.    How hard is it really to take the box out and throw it away?  Nope they leave the box so when the person who does the ordering thinks there are more items than there really is.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • lyndausvi said:
    Oh my H also takes the last pop-tart or granola bar out of the box in the pantry but then LEAVES THE BOX!  Why?!  Why?  Or he takes the box out of the pantry but doesn't throw it away, rather just leaves it on the kitchen island when the trash can is right freaking there!
    At the club they do that is drives me BATTY.     Every Saturday I come into work and I have to throw a shit ton of empty boxes away.    How hard is it really to take the box out and throw it away?  Nope they leave the box so when the person who does the ordering thinks there are more items than there really is.
    This.  It really irritates me when I make a food shopping list.  I look into the pantry to see what we need.  If I see boxes I think "oh we don't need that" only to find out after I get back from the food store, that in fact, we did need it plus a bunch of other stuff.

  • lyndausvi said:
    DH loves to leave the vacuum plugged in with the actual vacuum like 20 feet away after he is done.    IDK, how about putting it away?  Nope, he likes to just have a cord strung across the room for someone to trip over.
    But at least he uses the vacuum, right? Can beggars be choosers?
    he likes to vacuum.  Well he likes to do it about once a month.     


    We have a dishwasher but haven't used in about 3-4 months now.   I hand wash everything.    If DH and I eat together I will wash his stuff too.  If we don't, I expect him to wash his own dishes.   I've been known to just pile up his stuff next to the sink to make a point.      He is much better now at washing them.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh ladies I hear ya. I regularly have to clean up after my husband when he cleans up. We don't have a dishwasher and he does the dishes since I do most of the other cooking and cleaning. He never gets the cups or dishes left in the living room or anywhere except the counter next to the sink. When he's done, I have to come in, wipe down the sink, put away the sponge and soap, etc. He also does the floors and leaves the mop and vacuum out. He'll leave the chairs on the dining room table for days. I keep reminding him that I'll be happy to do all the housework when I can be a stay at home wife.
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  • all I can think of is leaving dirty dishes in the sink, usually without rinsing them.  He's good about loading the dishwasher usually but sometimes doesn't want to deal with it I guess.  At least rinse them out so food doesn't get stuck and then it is even harder to clean
  • lyndausvi said:
    Oh my H also takes the last pop-tart or granola bar out of the box in the pantry but then LEAVES THE BOX!  Why?!  Why?  Or he takes the box out of the pantry but doesn't throw it away, rather just leaves it on the kitchen island when the trash can is right freaking there!
    At the club they do that is drives me BATTY.     Every Saturday I come into work and I have to throw a shit ton of empty boxes away.    How hard is it really to take the box out and throw it away?  Nope they leave the box so when the person who does the ordering thinks there are more items than there really is.
    This.  It really irritates me when I make a food shopping list.  I look into the pantry to see what we need.  If I see boxes I think "oh we don't need that" only to find out after I get back from the food store, that in fact, we did need it plus a bunch of other stuff.
    exactly.    DH does most of the ordering at the club.  The banquet manager told him there were no more sternos.    DH was confused because he saw some boxes on the shelf.  After further investigation there were FOUR empty sterno boxes.  FOUR.  WTF?   If you take the last one then throw the box out.   When you open the last box tell DH so he can order more.  How hard is that to understand?






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • If H washes dishes by hand I basically have to come behind him with a mop because he gets water everywhere.  We have a huge sink but he refuses to place washed dishes in the sink next to the tub of soapy water.  He says that the sink is filthy so instead he lays out all the wet dishes all over the counter tops.  So he will finish the dishes but then leaves the kitchen a soaking mess.

  • Oh! Here is another one. My FI rearranges the dirty dishes in the sink. (i.e. cutting boards on bottom, then plates, then bowls, cups and silverware, etc.)

    For the love of all things good and holy, WHY on earth would you take the time to rearrange the dirty dishes instead of unloading the clean ones from the dishwasher and putting the dirty ones in it????

    That one takes the cake for me.

  • Yep on the laundry basket. We have 3 different laundry baskets and hampers so that H will put his dirty clothes away. Does it happen? Usually not.

  • I refuse to take out the garbage or recycling because if I do it once, he'll never do it again. I'll ask him to take it out a few times and then when he doesn't, I'll just pile everything up as high and precariously as I can so it's a pain in his ass when he does finally take it out. 

    H has left several empty bottles of laundry soap, empty pop boxes and other recyclable crap in the basement for months. I don't know if he's ever taken anything upstairs to recycle.The other day I asked him if I need to call the garbage company because apparently they are supposed to come into our basement to pick up recycling. He got the hint. 
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  • DH loves to leave trash (receipts, junk mail, soda cans, whatever) all over the house.  I have strategically placed trash cans in each room of the house in an attempt to combat this problem.  No, he will still leave garbage on the counter/table/etc. RIGHT NEXT TO the trash.  Like, he will literally leave trash sitting one foot from a trash can. It annoys the hell out of me. 


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  • lyndausvi said:
    lyndausvi said:
    DH loves to leave the vacuum plugged in with the actual vacuum like 20 feet away after he is done.    IDK, how about putting it away?  Nope, he likes to just have a cord strung across the room for someone to trip over.
    But at least he uses the vacuum, right? Can beggars be choosers?
    he likes to vacuum.  Well he likes to do it about once a month.     


    We have a dishwasher but haven't used in about 3-4 months now.   I hand wash everything.    If DH and I eat together I will wash his stuff too.  If we don't, I expect him to wash his own dishes.   I've been known to just pile up his stuff next to the sink to make a point.      He is much better now at washing them.

    Say wha...?

    You will pry my Kitchenaid diswasher from my cold dead hands.  I was in my mid 30's before I had a dishwasher - that baby isn't going anywhere.  That leads me to a couple of things about DH.

    My DH can fix AN.Y.THING.  I don't call repair people, electricians (unless we are talking something that requires a permit), plumbers, car mechanics - nothing.  He can fix the washer, the dryer, the whatever, the transmission in the car, put a new engine in my car - whatever it is he can fix it - except dinner.  I kid you not, he doesn't have a culinary bone in his body.  Yeah, he can do burgers, french toast, bacon and eggs.  But a real meal?  I'd kill him before he got done because he overcomplicates everything and would literally ask me 50 questions about where do we keep this and were do keep that. 

    While he is incredibly talented at fixing things, it takes a miracle for our stuff to get on the fix it schedule.  It pretty much has to be an emergency - or maybe he sees his imminent death in my eyes - to get our stuff taken care of.

    That brings me to the Kitchenaid dishwasher.  That puppy is the bomb.   Requires very little to no rinsing the dishes - they come out beautiful everytime.  So, dear husband, WTF do you need to soak your ice cream bowl in the sink before it goes in my beloved dishwasher?  Hmm?

    Now that it is just the two of us, it might take a little longer to fill it up (God knows our son can use 2 tons of dishes everyday but he is up at school now) but the dishwasher is still going to get used.  We have all white dishes so I don't rinse them perfectly clean - I just get the chunks off that don't need to go down the disposal.

    I guarantee I own more dishes/silverware/glasses than a few of you put together.  I have a shit ton of that stuff.  We will never ever run out of anything waiting for the diswasher to be finished.


     

  • Funny how dishes seem to be a common theme.  FI is a traveling consultant, but hasn't been on the road in about 6 weeks.  When I get home from work, he complains that he's bored.  But yet... the dishwasher will be sitting there full of clean dishes, and he'll pile his dirty ones in the sink.  He says he doesn't empty it because he doesn't know where everything goes.  I tell him that even if he gets most of it put away (like he knows where plates, cups, etc go), and just leaves the rest out on the counter for me to put away, that works for me.  But nope, nothing.

    Next time I'm going to tell him he can't whine about being bored if he's also being lazy.  
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