Brother being difficult
Looking for some sisterly advice !
We are looking to have a no kids wedding. not because we don't like kids, not because they're brats, simply because there are WAY TOO MANY of them (we're talking over 50 in a guestlist of 130-150 adults). I haven't sent out invites or anything official yet, these are just basic rules we're starting to put together.
So my brother has 2 little girls, one of which is my goddaughter. They are the only 2 on my side of the family (and I have no contact with any cousins due to our parents falling out years ago), whereas FI has many uncles/aunts and therefore cousins and little cousins, who all grew up together and helped raise each other (picture little house on the prairie).
Well, he is absolutely furious that I am denying his little girls from being there with us. We are having a more upscale wedding (ceremony and reception at the same location), in the city, with hors d'oeuvres, sparkling wine, martinis and oysters. He thinks I'm heartless for not inviting them and that his kids are more important than all the others because they are immediate family and not just "random little runts from FI's family" (his words).
I tried discussing this with him and in short, his conclusion was that he regrets choosing me as his child's godmother and that his wife and himself no longer want to be in the wedding party.
Am I being selfish? I'm just trying to be fair to all the others who also have kids. Please help ! I plan on sitting down with him to discuss the issue, just need to know whether I'm the one in the wrong seat! Thanks !
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