Well crap ... no photo list bit us in the butt.

checkitnice

MIL was conveniently not around during pictures - and was not in ANY of our professional pics.  None.  Even though I had a photographer for eight freaking hours, MIL and FIL aren't in any of them, and now MIL isn't speaking to me.  They apparently got pissy about waiting and left the ceremony site before pictures were done, and never asked for any during the reception (when we were also doing portraits).  MIL never came up to me and talked to me at the ceremony OR reception once.  But now she's livid (I apologized for it before she ever even noticed) and there's nothing I can do.

FML.

kmmssg

Is she speaking to her son?

checkitnice

Yes.  That's what's got me pissed off the most.  The photographer was a friend of mine, and MIL's sister has got MIL thinking this was some kind of conspiracy because I think his family is trash.  Which I don't.

LittleMissCutiePie

I would sit down and have a talk with her and explain the situation. If she doesn't want to listen, then you just have to let her get over it on her own time.

rlavach

That's just ridiculous. How can she be upset with you, when she was the one with no patience & left. She needs to get over it.

aloisk57

Why didn't your FI pipe up and mention that he didn't get a picture with his family?  He should have noticed.  What'd one is done, but I agree, a TTD session might be a way to smooth things over.

RailWayWife

Honestly your FI should have noticed that no pictures were taken with his family BUT that being said what is done is done. Your H needs to talk to his mother. There is NO reason she should be upset with you.

Nancy00714

Was there a mother son dance picture at least?

Cortney1982

MIL is to blame here.  She left before pictures were done and had all the time during the reception to make sure she got her picture.  My mom was smart.  She told me she wanted just a photo of herself and my dad together.  I would have never thought of it during the busy day and she got the picture she wanted.

checkitnice

I offered to do any kind of photo shoot that she wanted - my photographer is offering one gratis.  She turned me down.  MIL has never been a shrinking violet type, so I don't know why she didn't speak up for herself.  She's acting all "poor MIL was stuck in the corner" about this and other wedding related crap.  One thing that I can think is that my mom knows the photographer and so my mom wasn't shy about getting pictures done.  I really didn't notice any of this the day of, it's all in hindsight.  It sucks.

kmmssg

If you have offered a photo shoot and she still wants to play the victim,  your DH needs to tell her to shut up.

Cortney1982

She is being a brat now, down the road she is going to wish she had been mature about the whole thing and took the photos when she had a 2nd chance.

cnf2013

Your MIL is kind of to blame here. She shouldn't have gotten impatient and left. And, she should have spoken up at some point. I'm surprised no one noticed during pictures though that she went MIA and didn't say anything.

At my brothers wedding, the photographer ending up getting sick and sent his assistant alone. She completely forgot to do the entire shot list for my family's side. We ended up with zero portraits of our side of the family. My mom even paid for the photography bill to boot. She was livid. I know she was caught up with greeting family and stuff, she did a lot of the coordinating for my brothers wife, etc and honestly it didn't even occurr to her during the time of the wedding that it never happened, so I can see a possible oversight. But you even said she got impaitent and left on her accord, so it's really her own fault. However, I do agree that it is pretty sad to think she doesn't have any photos of her and her son on their wedding day. 

MoxieMickie

Your MIL is solely to blame. She either needed to be present when photos were being taken or be assertive about having "make ups" taken later. The time to be sure a photo is taken of all the family members is during the family photo session. It was no one else's responsibility to make sure she was photographed during the rest of the reception.
The fact that she is acting like the victim of a grand conspiracy and refuses any photo retakes just reinforces that she is to blame.

ceceibson

Similar situation here, although not nearly as bad as your MIL is making things for you.

We did all portrait photographs before the ceremony.  We had family groups come at staggered times to be efficient and so that not everyone had to stand around forever/be inconvenienced.  We also had a preception for an hour before the wedding, so photographs ended just before.

For whatever reason, my brother showed up half-way through the preception.  So, we have no family photo of DH & me with my mom and siblings.

Not my fault.  But you wouldn't know that to hear my mother and one sister whine about it. Still.