I kinda need some thoughts and reassurance from all of you.
So after I got engaged. I asked 8 lovely women to be my bridesmaids. All were super ecstatic and said yes. And I was so excited to honor our friendship. Since we were all from out of town, I mainly asked them to help me plan by giving me their opinions. I never once asked them for manual labor help....in which planning my own wedding there was a lot. (Luckily my sister and MOH were moooore than helpful).
Now. I just want to note. The bridesmaid I am about to vent about....I got married the day after her birthday. My rehearsal dinner was on her birthday, which is why I think I got some backlash for it.
Once planning was done and activities started one BM look absolutely miserable. She left my bridal shower to "sort things out with her mother" then later it slipped that she went to hang out with friends. My bachelorette party was the same night. She showed up late and left the bars and was the first one to leave.
At the rehearsal dinner she scowled the entire time. Note: it is her birthday so I somewhat understand. But after the dinner, we took her out for drinks to celebrate her birthday. I did my best to celebrate her birthday.
The next day at my wedding. She was late, whiny, and irritable. She didn't wanna partake in pictures and just kind of sulked.
At the reception everyone else was dancing and her and her date sat at "her" table the entire time. I tried to get her to get up to dance with me, but she turned me down every time.
My MOH (after a few too many drinks) asked her why she wasn't having a good time and she said she "just wasn't feeling it."
My feelings are truly hurt. I didn't notice at the time, but in retrospect I wish she would have politely declined to be a BM instead of being a Debbie downer for all of the events.
I've probably left a few things out that I'll have to clear up if I get any responses. But help! I didn't notice at the time, I wasn't going to let one of my "friends" rain on my parade. I had an INCREDIBLE time with my now husband. But I can't help but feel hurt by her lack of enthusiasm. I realize that not every BM is going to be as excited as me, I get that. But even some guests pointed her out to me and asked why she was so upset. It was blatantly obvious she wasn't just not excited but that she was actually miserable.
Do I talk to her? Do I ignore it? Thoughts?