Crunch time! Today is our RSVP deadline. The responses were pouring in at the beginning (coming home to 8 little purple envelopes at a time was like Christmas every day!) but have been very slowly trickling in the last week or two. Out of 105 invites sent, we are still waiting on 22. That seems like a large number to still be outstanding on the last day! We are giving it a couple days for people who waited until today to mail it before we start contacting people. Luckily a few of them are wedding party members, so we know they'll be there - but still need to know whether they need any dietary accommodations.
It always puzzles me as to why many people wait until the last minute to send it back (unpredictable work schedules and forgetfulness notwithstanding). We do know of at least one invite that did not make it to the recipient, which we found out at a Labor Day barbecue. I'm hoping this was an isolated incident, but who knows with the USPS. Thankfully, no one so far has tried to add their children (child-free wedding) or an uninvited plus-one as we were fearing.
How are your RSVPs coming along? Anyone had any difficulties?
Re: How are your RSVPs going?
I am hoping Email/private message people next week like Monday, and remind them, then the following week if we still have a bunch we have not received, I will be calling..
you guys seem to have awesome guests to only have 95% and 81% respond, On time!
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Our RSVP deadline is a week from today. We sent out 66 invitations and are still waiting on 41 RSVPs! People better start sending these things back or I may have a meltdown! I had FH reach out to some of the people since most that have not responded are on his side and some responded that they will be coming so that is at least a little reassuring, but at this point we won’t even meet our venues minimum of 100 people so we will end up paying for a much of people that aren’t there.
What is it with people just not RSVPing?!?! It is so rude
@frenchiekin It seriously is the easiest thing to send back an RSVP! We are having a buffet with vegetarian option so they don't even need to make a food selection. Just mark if you are coming, how many and then drop it in the mail. ARG! At this point I might be happy with Facebook or text responses. lol
Do the expecting have to travel far to come to your wedding?
I am where your FH is at, my FH's family has mostly responded, and little to none of my family has responded. we remind our selves (brides) all the time that people wont change for your wedding when it comes to bridesmaids and family.. maybe he needs that reminder? is his family the type to not respond and show up? or are they the type to not come to family events? dont let him get bummed about it, it will still be an awesome day for the two of you no matter how many people will be there.. just remind him less people = more cake for you guys!
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rusticbride27 said: Our deadline has now passed and so many people haven't sent RSVP's. FI is really bummed because most of his extended family have either declined or failed to RSVP altogether. He has a big family, so it's even more upsetting... that's a big portion of our guest list! His best friend/his wife and his sister/her husband also won't be there because they're expecting babies around our wedding date... we've known this for a while, but the fact that so many family won't be coming just adds to that sting. It's hard to watch him get so sad about it
I am where your FH is at, my FH's family has mostly responded, and little to none of my family has responded. we remind our selves (brides) all the time that people wont change for your wedding when it comes to bridesmaids and family.. maybe he needs that reminder? is his family the type to not respond and show up? or are they the type to not come to family events? dont let him get bummed about it, it will still be an awesome day for the two of you no matter how many people will be there.. just remind him less people = more cake for you guys!
------edited because boxes are hard?----------------- His family is the type to respond "yes" and NOT show, so I guess we should count our blessings that that's not what's happening! But still, a solid "no" means we won't be wasting money on their food... just stick the damn pre-stamped, pre-addressed card in the mail! I'm trying to keep him positive by reminding him of all the awesome people who will be there, but I guess it's just hard to know that your own family doesn't want to go to your wedding.
I have figured out if you use the "quote" button the boxes show up..
SO I Facebook messaged all the non-respondents and 9 out of 19 got back to me with in an hour... scary thing is we have a 96% yes rate.. lucky we could afford 150 and only invited 120!
and from the girl that was going to be my Maid of honor but backed out, gave a firm non-answer.. about how she feels uncomfortable at weddings and since i didn't include a +1 and wont have time to spend with her she just doesn't know.... frustrating...
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over the last year we have went from 150 to 100 people, between health problems, deaths, and people moving out of town. we are not disappointed, but it also doesn't save much either only like $165.. 6 months ago it was looking like 100% attendance and it kind of freaked me out. I didn't want a large wedding, but FI does because "we only get this once", that was his response to me wanting a beach destination wedding too..
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I also swear from now on to send back that RSVP right away, because.... it is intense waiting. We've gotten quite a few back after the deadline (one we knew was going to be late).
I have already called, and know who is coming and who isn't so it wasn't really a big deal, I just laughed..
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