Burlap and mason jars

[Deleted User]

Is there already a discussion here about burlap and mason jars? No? Well here we go.

I. am. SICK. of. burlap. and. mason. jars. I swear.
At first, it was cute! It was unique! Something different from the same-old stuffy traditional wedding themes I've seen. But now about 90% of the weddings I see on pinterest or various wedding venue pages in my state (Texas) are "country" weddings - old wood decorations, burlap, mason jars, the same exact wording on the same exact signs... I once told my "friend" how I'm tired of this trend and she said I was just "bitter" because I wasn't engaged yet... LOL no, I just want to see some originality in weddings! And for goodness sakes, NO MORE BURLAP!!!

laurad75

There are lots of threads on the snark board throwing shade at burlap and mason jars.  You are not alone.  

spockforprez

sarahjhd said:

Is there already a discussion here about burlap and mason jars? No? Well here we go.

I. am. SICK. of. burlap. and. mason. jars. I swear.
At first, it was cute! It was unique! Something different from the same-old stuffy traditional wedding themes I've seen. But now about 90% of the weddings I see on pinterest or various wedding venue pages in my state (Texas) are "country" weddings - old wood decorations, burlap, mason jars, the same exact wording on the same exact signs... I once told my "friend" how I'm tired of this trend and she said I was just "bitter" because I wasn't engaged yet... LOL no, I just want to see some originality in weddings! And for goodness sakes, NO MORE BURLAP!!!

To the bolded: Why, though? Weddings are already extremely generic: two people, an officiant, ceremony, kiss, food, plates, napkins, cups, drinks, music. Decor is totally superficial and pointless. It's only there to be festive, or for couples who want to express their personalities or fandoms or whatever. But as the theme weddings thread suggests, NOT TOO EXPRESSIVE! Damned if you do, damned if you don't. 

Not to mention, guests usually don't notice, care, or even remember what the decor looks like, and most of it goes into the trash after the wedding.

I wonder what kind of "original" wedding decor would satisfy some people. Put up some of the car sales lot windsock people and maybe some sign spinners while we're at it? Display the bride's vast collection of wooden dildos? Hose down the sanctuary with pepto bismal? Oops, that last one's been done.

spockforprez

It's like being invited to a dinner party and complaining the hostess's decor wasn't original enough. OMG she had little pumpkin salt shakers for a fall dinner party! How lame. It's been done! Show me some originality! 

ryanandjoe4

I get the OP's point as it is over done, and wanted nothing to do with the "country theme".

But I also ride horses, so I believe every person I have come across for the last year has asked (in a way too excited tone) "OOOHH are you going to wear boots with your dress??!!" my response "HELL NO, my boots are real boots they have horse shit on them, every pair.. and green horse shit with expensive white dress = OOOHHH HELL NO.. Besides I hate this stupid fake country trend its tacky to the people who actually do wear boots daily.." and it is usually in an annoyed tone matching their excited one.. 

But if that is your thing you do you... I will quitely judge you..

julieanne912

Judge away.  I used both burlap (as table runners) and mason jars (for centerpiece flowers and favors).  The burlap was cheap (ALL of it was $120, and that included a lot of leftover) and the big jars were free, and the small jars for my favors were $9/dozen.  And, my wedding reception looked awesome.  Even the venue owner complimented us saying he hadn't seen a wedding at his barn that looked like mine before.  So again, judge the shit out of my wedding.  We thought it was awesome.

thefanciestbeckler

julieanne912 said:

Judge away.  I used both burlap (as table runners) and mason jars (for centerpiece flowers and favors).  The burlap was cheap (ALL of it was $120, and that included a lot of leftover) and the big jars were free, and the small jars for my favors were $9/dozen.  And, my wedding reception looked awesome.  Even the venue owner complimented us saying he hadn't seen a wedding at his barn that looked like mine before.  So again, judge the shit out of my wedding.  We thought it was awesome.

Same here!! My wedding is this Sunday and it is going to look great! Honestly though, that is the style I like. I have stuff like that in my house. It had nothing to do with being unoriginal and more to do with finding ways to save money. My venue is outside and is gorgeous, so simplicity suits it best.

lembaslover

I agree it does seem overdone lately but that being said if I'm properly hosted bring on the burlap and mason jars if you want! 

julieanne912

engagedhamstermom said:

I agree it does seem overdone lately but that being said if I'm properly hosted bring on the burlap and mason jars if you want! 

Yeah I could have skipped the open bar and had just beer and wine, and then had fancy mercury glass vases or julep cups for my centerpieces.  But oh wait, those have been done before too.  

spockforprez

ryanandjoe4 said:

I get the OP's point as it is over done, and wanted nothing to do with the "country theme".

But I also ride horses, so I believe every person I have come across for the last year has asked (in a way too excited tone) "OOOHH are you going to wear boots with your dress??!!" my response "HELL NO, my boots are real boots they have horse shit on them, every pair.. and green horse shit with expensive white dress = OOOHHH HELL NO.. Besides I hate this stupid fake country trend its tacky to the people who actually do wear boots daily.." and it is usually in an annoyed tone matching their excited one.. 

But if that is your thing you do you... I will quitely judge you..

Bahahaha. Yes. My bridesmaids are wearing sundresses and my mom's friend kept insisting they wear boots. And 3/4 of them grew up on farms and still own horses to this day. Like okay, sure, they could wear boots, but have you SEEN most actual riding boots? Gross. 

ryanandjoe4

dreadpirateroberts said:

ryanandjoe4 said:

I get the OP's point as it is over done, and wanted nothing to do with the "country theme".

But I also ride horses, so I believe every person I have come across for the last year has asked (in a way too excited tone) "OOOHH are you going to wear boots with your dress??!!" my response "HELL NO, my boots are real boots they have horse shit on them, every pair.. and green horse shit with expensive white dress = OOOHHH HELL NO.. Besides I hate this stupid fake country trend its tacky to the people who actually do wear boots daily.." and it is usually in an annoyed tone matching their excited one.. 

But if that is your thing you do you... I will quitely judge you..

Bahahaha. Yes. My bridesmaids are wearing sundresses and my mom's friend kept insisting they wear boots. And 3/4 of them grew up on farms and still own horses to this day. Like okay, sure, they could wear boots, but have you SEEN most actual riding boots? Gross. 

(also just saw your name @dreadpirateroberts I made my FI watch princess bride a few weeks ago, now we quote it all the time, he was worried that it was a sappy girly movie, I have not made him watch any of those since I don't like them.)

hellohkb

I despise burlap but don't mind mason jars too much. Nothing is cute about a potato sack, IMO. Don't care if people use them in their weddings, but it'd be cool to see a variety of ideas online and in magazines.

thisismynickname2

I only get irked with the intent behind the decor. Doing something that one thinks is "unique" because they saw it on Pinterest is silly. Doing something purely for the photo op is silly. Doing something because it speaks to who the bride and groom are or how they live, cool. 

I'm just really sick of signs. Signs...everywhere. SIGNS. Ugh.

spockforprez

thisismynickname said:

I only get irked with the intent behind the decor. Doing something that one thinks is "unique" because they saw it on Pinterest is silly. Doing something purely for the photo op is silly. Doing something because it speaks to who the bride and groom are or how they live, cool. 

I'm just really sick of signs. Signs...everywhere. SIGNS. Ugh.

Now signs I can snark on. Unless it's a buffet menu, which can be helpful. Otherwise, I know I'm drinking lemonade. I know what your basket of flip flops is for. I know what your guestbook is and what I'm supposed to do with it.

hellohkb

thisismynickname said:

I only get irked with the intent behind the decor. Doing something that one thinks is "unique" because they saw it on Pinterest is silly. Doing something purely for the photo op is silly. Doing something because it speaks to who the bride and groom are or how they live, cool. 

I'm just really sick of signs. Signs...everywhere. SIGNS. Ugh.

I'm petrified to have even a single sign in fear that one of my guests is a TK reg and will snark. I like signs as long as they're not overdone sayings.

[Deleted User]

When I said originality, I basically meant anything besides mason jars and burlap. More so the fact that literally every single wedding I've been to in the past, idk, 4 years has been overrun with the stuff. If that's your taste, cool, but it isn't mine and I'm not the only one who thinks it's been overdone. If people snark on my wedding decor, whatever.

[Deleted User]

hellohkb said:

I only get irked with the intent behind the decor. Doing something that one thinks is "unique" because they saw it on Pinterest is silly. Doing something purely for the photo op is silly. Doing something because it speaks to who the bride and groom are or how they live, cool. 

I'm just really sick of signs. Signs...everywhere. SIGNS. Ugh.

I'm petrified to have even a single sign in fear that one of my guests is a TK reg and will snark. I like signs as long as they're not overdone sayings.

I'm okay with signs, as long as they're useful. I went to a wedding where every single sign not only had horrible spelling errors, but they all had the wrong wedding date... I mean, they were written in chalk, not painted. How did you get your own wedding date wrong??? That would bug me to no end in pictures. Of course like someone up there mentioned, no one really remembers your wedding decor, so I guess it's insignificant.

Heffalump

laurad75 said:

There are lots of threads on the snark board throwing shade at burlap and mason jars.  You are not alone.  

I feel like complaining about burlap and mason jars is becoming the new burlap and mason jars.

PamBeesly524

sarahjhd said:

When I said originality, I basically meant anything besides mason jars and burlap. More so the fact that literally every single wedding I've been to in the past, idk, 4 years has been overrun with the stuff. If that's your taste, cool, but it isn't mine and I'm not the only one who thinks it's been overdone. If people snark on my wedding decor, whatever.

But there are so many other things that are just as overdone as mason jars and burlap. It's like you're saying "I went to a wedding and the bride was wearing a white dress... how unoriginal!" 

I say to each their own. Yes I agree that people thinking that mason jars and burlap are original don't know what original means. But if beside the mason jar centerpieces is an amazing meal in front of me and free booze/drink? Then please, wrap me up like a burrito in burlap, as long as your willing to spoon feed me that amazing mac and cheese.

charlottesmom0626

I get this snark, but I also love this look and had it for my wedding. You'll hear me snark like this about gaudy receptions with tall centerpieces, or about roses, or about garters and bouquet tosses. Ick.

About the boots: I definitely have gross boots covered in mud and poop and whatever else. I also have 'dancing boots' that I wear when we go out, and they're clean. I wore them to my reception. 

ETA: the pictures are from my wedding, me and my husband in our boots and our centerpieces. 

Jen4948

I don't mind burlap or Mason jars unless the "theme" is supposed to be black or white tie or "urban." Then they just don't work.

As far as signs go, if they convey genuinely useful information, I don't mind that either. But if they are being used to be "cute" or "funny" or to give kids "roles" that they otherwise wouldn't have, then I'm going to side-eye them. I can't stand "last chance to run" signs or even "here comes your bride" signs carried by kids-and from the photos I've seen of kids carrying signs, neither can the kids carrying the signs!

spockforprez

Heffalump said:

laurad75 said:

There are lots of threads on the snark board throwing shade at burlap and mason jars.  You are not alone.  

I feel like complaining about burlap and mason jars is becoming the new burlap and mason jars.

No shit.

Wedding trends are a thing. They just are. 10 years ago it was all about having mirrors and 100 votive candles for your centerpieces or whatever. Strapless, satin, shiny white dresses used to be overdone. Now lace dresses with cap sleeves are. 

Decor doesn't need to "represent" or "mean" anything about the couple. Seriously. It's just flowers, candles, and table runners. It's festive. It's pointless. It gets recycled, sold, or thrown away.

spockforprez

charlottesmom0626 said:

I get this snark, but I also love this look and had it for my wedding. You'll hear me snark like this about gaudy receptions with tall centerpieces, or about roses, or about garters and bouquet tosses. Ick.

About the boots: I definitely have gross boots covered in mud and poop and whatever else. I also have 'dancing boots' that I wear when we go out, and they're clean. I wore them to my reception. 

ETA: the pictures are from my wedding, me and my husband in our boots and our centerpieces. 

Gorgeous! 

MissKittyDanger

I'm hoping I'm not zombie-fying this thread! {If I do, sorry!}I was about to say "ew burlap and mason jars" also, but I realized really quickly that it wouldn't have worked for our wedding. Some of the previous posters make it look amazing and works great on their wedding .... but that's it, it works for them.

I'm sure those who have the country "theme", it works for them. My own wasn't, and doesn't work with our personalities.

julieanne912charlottesmom0626 your weddings sounded amazing

MegEn1

sarahjhd said:

hellohkb said:

I only get irked with the intent behind the decor. Doing something that one thinks is "unique" because they saw it on Pinterest is silly. Doing something purely for the photo op is silly. Doing something because it speaks to who the bride and groom are or how they live, cool. 

I'm just really sick of signs. Signs...everywhere. SIGNS. Ugh.

I'm petrified to have even a single sign in fear that one of my guests is a TK reg and will snark. I like signs as long as they're not overdone sayings.

I'm okay with signs, as long as they're useful. I went to a wedding where every single sign not only had horrible spelling errors, but they all had the wrong wedding date... I mean, they were written in chalk, not painted. How did you get your own wedding date wrong??? That would bug me to no end in pictures. Of course like someone up there mentioned, no one really remembers your wedding decor, so I guess it's insignificant.

We have one sign at our wedding. Since our tables are named after little-known founding fathers, we have a sign at the escort card table saying that the tables are arranged alphabetically by last name from left to right -- the same way the escort cards are arranged. I think this sign is entirely necessary. So it always frustrates me to see entirely useless signs all around. Which signs do I read? Is all this information vital? OH GOD WHY ISN'T THERE A STEP BY STEP? 

ryanandjoe4

MegEn1 said:

sarahjhd said:

hellohkb said:

I only get irked with the intent behind the decor. Doing something that one thinks is "unique" because they saw it on Pinterest is silly. Doing something purely for the photo op is silly. Doing something because it speaks to who the bride and groom are or how they live, cool. 

I'm just really sick of signs. Signs...everywhere. SIGNS. Ugh.

I'm petrified to have even a single sign in fear that one of my guests is a TK reg and will snark. I like signs as long as they're not overdone sayings.

I'm okay with signs, as long as they're useful. I went to a wedding where every single sign not only had horrible spelling errors, but they all had the wrong wedding date... I mean, they were written in chalk, not painted. How did you get your own wedding date wrong??? That would bug me to no end in pictures. Of course like someone up there mentioned, no one really remembers your wedding decor, so I guess it's insignificant.

We have one sign at our wedding. Since our tables are named after little-known founding fathers, we have a sign at the escort card table saying that the tables are arranged alphabetically by last name from left to right -- the same way the escort cards are arranged. I think this sign is entirely necessary. So it always frustrates me to see entirely useless signs all around. Which signs do I read? Is all this information vital? OH GOD WHY ISN'T THERE A STEP BY STEP? 

I have a few signs, but mostly are for decor, like for the cake table it is not announcing, instructing but has a cute saying because I liked it, and had the supplies to make it. the venue also has hooks for these IMO ugly fake flowers, so I made/bought 3 signs that have sayings on them to cover those hooks, and take down the baskets with fake flowers. Only real instructional sign I have is a sit where ever sign because we don't have a seating chart (invited 150, have 304 seats).

DarthV8r

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fyrchk

My mom called me the other day to tell me she found the "cutest sign!" In my head I was like, "nooooooo." But she's had minimal input for our wedding (she lives in Virginia, I live in Colorado) and she's been surprisingly hands off (for her anyway) which I am grateful for. So, I wimped out and thanked her for the sign and just said, "Mom, you really don't have to buy anything for our wedding. You are doing so much by helping pay for the reception, I really don't want you to spend anymore money." She accepted that but told me she "just had to get it because it's so cute...it's a blackboard in a frame."

So, I now have a sign for my wedding...yay?

laurad75

fyrchk said:

My mom called me the other day to tell me she found the "cutest sign!" In my head I was like, "nooooooo." But she's had minimal input for our wedding (she lives in Virginia, I live in Colorado) and she's been surprisingly hands off (for her anyway) which I am grateful for. So, I wimped out and thanked her for the sign and just said, "Mom, you really don't have to buy anything for our wedding. You are doing so much by helping pay for the reception, I really don't want you to spend anymore money." She accepted that but told me she "just had to get it because it's so cute...it's a blackboard in a frame."

So, I now have a sign for my wedding...yay?

What does the sign say?  I think minimal cute signage is fine and extra points if it is useful.  

MissKittyDanger

We debated on a sign, just stating "sit where ever" or that the wedding was in the back area, but our groomsmen offered to help with that. I think this all really depends on the wedding.

If we had a "sit where ever sign" I do like the ones stating that it's becoming one family. In the end, majority of my family sat on one side and H's family on other .... opposite of where we stood. So it kinda worked. {basically my family could see me and his family could see him}

ChelleJayne

MissKittyDanger said:

We debated on a sign, just stating "sit where ever" or that the wedding was in the back area, but our groomsmen offered to help with that. I think this all really depends on the wedding.

If we had a "sit where ever sign" I do like the ones stating that it's becoming one family. In the end, majority of my family sat on one side and H's family on other .... opposite of where we stood. So it kinda worked. {basically my family could see me and his family could see him}

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FI and I decided to have this for our wedding because his side of the invitees is so small, he didn't want the seating to look lopsided.

ETF: Stupid quote box never works for me