My FI and I are both in school. Serious science programs.
My FI's BM wants them to go on a week long roadtrip. Vegas, the grand canyon, LA. And he wants me to tell my FI to skip school for it. Um, skip a microbiology lab? Are you CRAZY??? I love my FI obviously and I want him to have a great time. But a week long just is outrageous in my opinion, with our school situations!
Aaaaand it gets worse. The trip locations are supposed to be a surprise. At least until it gets closer to the trip. Well, my FI made a joke about them going to Vegas and next thing you know, I'm getting angry texts from the BM telling me I ruined the surprise, etc etc. Just plain awful. I'm not only planning my wedding right now but planning a honeymoon, searching for a new car, working my butt off both in school and at work. And the BM has the nerve to come at me? I literally did not tell my FI ANYTHING and even if I did, my FI has no interest in Vegas. He's not that type. I feel like he would want to know, though I truly didn't tell him.
Anyway, I had to tell my FI what the BM said. Of course my FI told BM to leave me alone and get off my case. I was happy he took my side on that. But it just sucks. I know that the BM has "other reasons" for planning this trip. He had a child young and never gets a break, never gets to go anywhere. So this is kind of a trip for him too, hence him picking Vegas when my FI doesn't even care for that type of thing. And I understood that and told him that I would help my FI schedule appropriate dates for the trip. But then BM has to come at me for "ruining everything"?? Hello, this isn't your bachelor party dude! Sorry my FI is just amazing at guessing things!
Anyway... am I crazy for thinking that a week is too long? Am I being a stick in the mud or am I right for caring about our educations this much? And is the BM a total douche or what?