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Groom's father as BM -- processional question

My fiance is planning on asking his father to be his best man at our wedding. I am wondering what the best way to organize the processional would be in this case, as I have not attended a wedding in which the father of the groom was the best man. I would like for his father to escort his mother down the aisle, and then join him at the altar, however then one bridesmaid would not have an escort. Would you recommend having the maid of honor walk solo? Or adding an additional groomsman? My fiance has a large group of friends and adding an additional groomsman wouldn't be too difficult, as he had trouble narrowing the list down initially. He has not asked any of the groomsman yet, so it isn't too late to ask another person. What is the typical way that this is done in weddings where the father is the best man? I'm also curious how this works for the entrances at the reception. Thanks in advance for any insight!

Re: Groom's father as BM -- processional question

  • At my daughter's wedding, the best man escorted the MOG down the aisle then walked to the back of the church to participate in the processional. My sons escorted me down the aisle, walked to the back of the church and processed. So that is all doable. As for the reception entrance, I guess he could be introduced with the MOH as the best man unless you are planning to introduce the parents too. Parents weren't introduced at my daughter's reception.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 Boston Suburbs member
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    I've seen many instances where one of the groomsman has escorted the MOB or MOG and then came back. Also, most of the time the bridesmaids walk alone down the aisle, and are only escorted back after the wedding.

    If you want the bridemaids to be escorted, have the BM escort the MOG and then come back for the MOH. MOH is right before the bride so the timing will be fine. Or you can have one groomsman escort two bridesmaids.

    Coming back up the aisle after the wedding ceremony, the BM can escort his wife (MOG) and then two bridesmaids can be escorted by one groomsman. It's not a big deal. My wedding party was uneven and one bridesmaid was escorted by two groomsman, and it worked out fine.

    Why did you FI have to narrow down his list?


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  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado mod
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    My DH escorted his mom down.  Both my brother's escorted my mom down for there wedding.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • For our processional, the BM (DH's brother) escorted their mom down, then he walked back to the rear and entered with the groom and the priest.  My MOH walked alone, and processed right before me and my father.
  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom South Jersey member
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    My fiance is planning on asking his father to be his best man at our wedding. I am wondering what the best way to organize the processional would be in this case, as I have not attended a wedding in which the father of the groom was the best man. I would like for his father to escort his mother down the aisle, and then join him at the altar, however then one bridesmaid would not have an escort. Would you recommend having the maid of honor walk solo? Or adding an additional groomsman? My fiance has a large group of friends and adding an additional groomsman wouldn't be too difficult, as he had trouble narrowing the list down initially. He has not asked any of the groomsman yet, so it isn't too late to ask another person. What is the typical way that this is done in weddings where the father is the best man? I'm also curious how this works for the entrances at the reception. Thanks in advance for any insight!
    You have a few options.  You can have all of your BMs walk down individually.  Start with FI and his GM waiting at the front.  MOG & FOG can process in together and FOG can then take his place at the altar as BM.  Then for the recessional, MOH & BM can walk together alone or MOH & BM can walk out and MOG can join them.  

    Or if you prefer to have your BM & GM process in together, since the MOG is one of the first ones seated, FOG can just circle around to come back and escort the MOH in. 

    For the reception entrance, I would have MOG and FOG announced together and MOH announced solo. 
  • I've seen many instances where one of the groomsman has escorted the MOB or MOG and then came back. Also, most of the time the bridesmaids walk alone down the aisle, and are only escorted back after the wedding.

    If you want the bridemaids to be escorted, have the BM escort the MOG and then come back for the MOH. MOH is right before the bride so the timing will be fine. Or you can have one groomsman escort two bridesmaids.

    Coming back up the aisle after the wedding ceremony, the BM can escort his wife (MOG) and then two bridesmaids can be escorted by one groomsman. It's not a big deal. My wedding party was uneven and one bridesmaid was escorted by two groomsman, and it worked out fine.

    Why did you FI have to narrow down his list?


    He wasn't asked to narrow his list, but he initially had 12 in mind and he independently decided that was far too many.
  • My FI has also asked his father to be his BM. For our WP we have 2 GM and 3 Bridesmaids. I'm jewish so both my parents will walk me down the isle, FI's father/BM will walk down with 1 of my BM's the other 2 GM's will walk down with the other 2 BM's. And so MOG doesn't feel left out, she will be walking him down the isle. 
  • FIL was DH's best man.  We had the bridesmaids process down the aisle but not the groomsmen.  The ones that had people to escort (grandmothers and MOB) processed; the others just entered at the altar area with DH prior to the procession.  FIL escorted MIL down the aisle and then took his place next to DH.  This is how I see most weddings...I very rarely see bridesmaids escorted down the aisle for the procession.  Generally they process alone and recess with a GM in my circle.

     

    We had an uneven wedding party, so each of my bridesmaids recessed with a groomsman and then FIL was left over so he picked up MIL on his way back down the aisle.  Though even with an even bridal party this could be done...two bridesmaids could recess with one groomsman so that FIL could escort MIL.  Seriously, no one pays attention to the recession since the bride and groom leave first and really...no one cares about anyone else.  they just want to get to the happy hour.

  • littlepeplittlepep South Carolina member
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    We had ladies enter solo. My H had his father as his best man and two brothers as GM. The brothers escorted their moms and another GM escorted my mom. Then they walked back out and all the GM entered with my H from the side. The bridesmaids processed alone and recessed out together. 
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