I know there is a thread about the couple who sent an invoice to guests who RSVP'd yes and then were no shows to a wedding. Obviously, that is super rude. And, frankly, it doesn't make a lot of sense, you wouldn't invoice the people who showed up and ate the food, why would you invoice the people who didn't show up and didn't eat the food? When you have a wedding you need to be prepared that you are basically flushing money down a drain. No guest is responsible for reimbursing your choices.
However, we do have this super rude person in our friend group who I am super irritated with. To make a long story short, she works for an event planner in town and thinks she knows all things wedding. She is helping some friends of ours plan their wedding and from what I can tell is pushing them to spend more than what they have, do a cash registry, etc. Blech. She also, in front of my husband, was explaining how important it is to get RSVP's so you have the right count for the caterer and how frustrating it is when people don't RSVP or don't show.
Why? Because, to try to make a long story short, this girl is not super close with us but is in our circle and therefore she and her SO were invited to our wedding. When she first got the STD she basically told me she wouldn't be attending because she had a much nicer and more expensive wedding she was working that weekend. Bitch please, you don't need to flash a stranger's $50k budget in my face, you can just tell me you have to work that night.
Then, as the wedding got closer she verbally RSVP'd and un-RSVP'd for her and her SO like three times. "Oh, SO is coming, but I can't" "Oh, neither of us can come", etc. Her conclusive decision, AFTER THE RSVP DEADLINE, when I asked her to just tell me one way or the other, was that she and her SO were planning to attend our wedding, but would miss the ceremony due to the other fancier wedding. Ok, fine, so we included them in our count for the caterer.
They both no showed and never said anything about it. I don't need details or an explanation, but it's still pretty rude to not show up and not at least send me a text or a card saying, "hey, sorry we missed it, congrats".
It's probably for the best that I didn't overhear her lecturing people on the importance of accurate RSVP's because I don't know if I could have held back how pissed she makes me.