Now that the wedding is less than a year away (okay, full disclosure: it's a year from yesterday. but still!), I am planning to start going dress shopping soon (Thanksgiving weekend, so over a month from now). Definitely going with me are my mom, my sister, and my closest friend.
The question I have is this: who else did you/should I invite? Is this one of those things that it's okay to not invite people to or is this one of those times you should be sucking it up to make people happy/prevent hard feelings and/or drama?
I really don't want a big crowd or want people who just don't know my style - I feel like my mom already wants me to go with a more, let's say, decorated dress than I would like, but I know my sister and close friend will back me up on my choice, so I want them there. I don't think I need to invite my SIL (my oldest brother's wife), as she didn't have me at hers, so I can't imagine there would be hard feelings there. My FSIL (who is engaged to my brother) hasn't started dress shopping yet (to my knowledge - their wedding is after ours), but she has approximately a million friends (and also four biological sisters) and we aren't particularly close, so I doubt she'd have me along for that, so again, don't see those choices creating any drama.
But I'm wondering about FMIL and FSIL (FI's sister). I'm not even sure FMIL would want to participate in this (she didn't even want to see our venue, though that's another story that you are welcome to read about from that discussion), but I'm fairly positive FSIL would want to (she has said she is - and seems genuine - excited to "finally have a sister" and did ask to go tour a venue with us at the beginning). The problem is that I'm not crazy about her and I feel like it would be awkward to have her there since she only met my mom once and it's a small crowd. And, of course, I have to plan for the possibility that FMIL would decide to come, and that has potential to be awkward, as while I don't have a problem with her (well, outside of the previously mentioned drama), we're not close and I feel like dress shopping is kind of intimate?
I also know my mom is so so looking forward to having this moment with me and I think she is already slightly disappointed that anyone else will be there - it seems she wants the moment to herself. Obviously, that's not what I want, so that's not what's happening, but I'm afraid if I tell her I'm inviting FMIL and FSIL, she'll feel like I'm somehow making it less special for her. At the same time, I'm afraid of hurting FMIL and FSIL's feelings and making them feel left out.
Thoughts? Am I overthinking this? If it's relevant, I am planning on having all sisters, including FSIL, as bridesmaids, though it's too early to have asked anyone.
tl;dr edit: Is it appropriate to invite FMIL and FSIL dress shopping, even if it's not what you necessarily want, because that's the thing to do/because you don't want to hurt their feelings? Or is this a time when I can say this is my thing and this is how I want to do it?