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Update on life

So I said I would give an update on my life in the like one and a half years I have been away from this board. At least I think it has been that long since I've been here, I can't even remember.

Anywho, BF and I have now been living in the condo for almost two years(it will be two years in January) and we are still together. No ring in the near future though I could be wrong about that. He's been secretive in regards to a proposal. We keep on top of each other when it concerns the bills in the house. I still pay our cable and internet as well as our wrestling streaming network. I still pay for the groceries and bulk items. He still pays the mortgage and the condo fees. We split evenly the electric, cell phone and propane bills.

We have two lovely kitties which I have talked about on the Crazy Cat Lady thread on CC but I will reiterate them here. Loki is our oldest at a year and a half and is the true definition of a scaredy cat. Freya is our baby at 3 months old. The kitten was his idea to get and though I was nervous the first few days of having her, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

The past year or so with work has been meh. I was let go from three jobs, two of which were temp jobs and one which was my own doing. I had been working a full time job at a local Goodwill, which I had loved even though it was back in retail which I hated. Then management shifted and shit hit the fan. I left there in June and moved on to a call center job in July where I have been since and I love.

Family wise, my mother has now battled cancer a total of three times. She beat what we were told was colon cancer and was actually anal cancer. And she has now beaten lung cancer twice, once in each lung. Unfortunately, we received news a few months back that my aunt, her older sister, had cervical cancer and tested positive for Lynch syndrome. For those unfamiliar with Lynch syndrome, it is a genetic disorder that carries the possibility of several cancers. Since my aunt tested positive, my mother and her siblings needed to be tested to make sure no one else carried the gene. My mother did in fact test positive which means my brothers and I will also need to be tested. This is something that has weighed pretty heavily on my mind because of the possibilities. 

BF's family we have barely seen all year. We try our hardest to get to parties when we can but BF's job has made that difficult as he usually works six days a week. We don't see his brother and SIL very often either but when we do, I am cordial with her and act extremely nice to her. I love their son very much as well. BF's mother has had her own slew of health problems the past year as well. She has had oral surgery for implants so that her dentures can sit properly and they aren't healing very well so she doesn't cook as often as she used to. I miss her cooking.

I can't think of much else but if you have any questions that I may have missed, please ask away. I will do my best to answer them the best that I can. I will also do my best to handle the snark the best I can. 

Thanks- A.
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Re: Update on life

  • Swazzle said:
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    Sometimes it's a bit difficult for me to tell if you are being sarcastic or not. But thank you anyway.
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  • So sorry to hear about your mother's health, though I'm glad there are ups with the downs and she's in remission.  But wow, to walk away from lung cancer is amazing, and to do it twice is simply incredible.  You all sound like tough cookies!  I can only imagine how scary it is for the whole family to think about having Lynch Syndrome.  Take care of yourself.
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  • OwlNurse said:

    So sorry to hear about your mother's health, though I'm glad there are ups with the downs and she's in remission.  But wow, to walk away from lung cancer is amazing, and to do it twice is simply incredible.  You all sound like tough cookies!  I can only imagine how scary it is for the whole family to think about having Lynch Syndrome.  Take care of yourself.

    Thank you love. I haven't had a chance to go get tested myself since I had been between insurances at the time but I hope to do so very soon to ease my own mind.
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  • labro said:
    I am 100% not surprised on any of the job stuff. Have you been table to take a step back and learn what went wrong with your previous jobs? How are you able to get away with TK at a call center anyway? Or are you just planning to post when you're not at work?

    Have your feelings on backpacks changed?

    How about highway driving?
    I know that the last temp job that I was let go from was because of financial reasons and because I wasn't making my goal, which was no fault of my own. The temp job prior to that I'm not sure why I was let go since I had left the office, said I would see my boss the following day and then an hour later received a call from the temp agency saying he was letting me go. The job between the two temp jobs I wasn't focused on my tasks and I admit to being stupid about that. 

    As far as being on TK at work, I work in an outbound call center so I check and reply while one of my calls go through and switch back and forth. I'm lucky in that my cubicle is in a back office away from the main calling floor but I try to limit my time.

    My feelings about backpacks has obviously changed. I will admit that was one of the stupidest comments I have ever made.

    And since I have to drive on the highway to get to work every day, I'd say I feel more confident in it.
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  • Also, we're going to need kitten pictures. 



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  • Also, we're going to need kitten pictures. 
    When I get home from work, I'll post them. It'll be easier that way.
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  • JFC, if I ever have a bad day, I'm just going to read this thread.

    Bubbles, you need like a job coach or life coach or something.

    Actually, that sounds like a very good idea. I'll look into it. Thanks love!
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  • wink0erinwink0erin member
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    labro said:
    I am 100% not surprised on any of the job stuff. Have you been table to take a step back and learn what went wrong with your previous jobs? How are you able to get away with TK at a call center anyway? Or are you just planning to post when you're not at work?

    Have your feelings on backpacks changed?

    How about highway driving?
    I know that the last temp job that I was let go from was because of financial reasons and because I wasn't making my goal, which was no fault of my own. The temp job prior to that I'm not sure why I was let go since I had left the office, said I would see my boss the following day and then an hour later received a call from the temp agency saying he was letting me go. The job between the two temp jobs I wasn't focused on my tasks and I admit to being stupid about that. 

    As far as being on TK at work, I work in an outbound call center so I check and reply while one of my calls go through and switch back and forth. I'm lucky in that my cubicle is in a back office away from the main calling floor but I try to limit my time.

    My feelings about backpacks has obviously changed. I will admit that was one of the stupidest comments I have ever made.

    And since I have to drive on the highway to get to work every day, I'd say I feel more confident in it.


    Ok, I wasn't around back when you were here before, but I have highlighted the above just to point out some things.

    1) Not meeting a goal IS your fault. Unless no one at all meets their goal, but if you were canned for it, then it's much more likely you just did not do what you needed to do.

    2) This sounds like you left work without getting it approved first. Even if the boss is busy, you don't just leave unless it's a true emergency. You get that approved through another supervisor or someone above your own boss. Even in emergencies you need to inform someone high up.

    3) Posting on TK instead of working also = "not focusing on tasks"

    4) Just because you can hide what you're doing doesn't make it ok at all, and IT can see everything.

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    JFC, if I ever have a bad day, I'm just going to read this thread.

    Bubbles, you need like a job coach or life coach or something.


    Actually, that sounds like a very good idea. I'll look into it. Thanks love!

    Like you would look into therapy?  How'd that work out by the way?  I'm sorry, I spent a lot of time responding to you in the past and trying to encourage you to go to therapy so I don't want to get sucked back in to responding (which I guess I have).  Did you go to therapy by the way?  

    I did try a therapist but things didn't click with me and her. I haven't thought about it much since especially after changing antidepressants but it's always something I know would be good to look into again. Just gotta find the one that works for me.
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  • wink0erin said:

     



    labro said:

    I am 100% not surprised on any of the job stuff. Have you been table to take a step back and learn what went wrong with your previous jobs? How are you able to get away with TK at a call center anyway? Or are you just planning to post when you're not at work?

    Have your feelings on backpacks changed?

    How about highway driving?

    I know that the last temp job that I was let go from was because of financial reasons and because I wasn't making my goal, which was no fault of my own. The temp job prior to that I'm not sure why I was let go since I had left the office, said I would see my boss the following day and then an hour later received a call from the temp agency saying he was letting me go. The job between the two temp jobs I wasn't focused on my tasks and I admit to being stupid about that. 

    As far as being on TK at work, I work in an outbound call center so I check and reply while one of my calls go through and switch back and forth. I'm lucky in that my cubicle is in a back office away from the main calling floor but I try to limit my time.

    My feelings about backpacks has obviously changed. I will admit that was one of the stupidest comments I have ever made.

    And since I have to drive on the highway to get to work every day, I'd say I feel more confident in it.




    Ok, I wasn't around back when you were here before, but I have highlighted the above just to point out some things.

    1) Not meeting a goal IS your fault. Unless no one at all meets their goal, but if you were canned for it, then it's much more likely you just did not do what you needed to do.

    2) This sounds like you left work without getting it approved first. Even if the boss is busy, you don't just leave unless it's a true emergency. You get that approved through another supervisor or someone above your own boss. Even in emergencies you need to inform someone high up.

    3) Posting on TK instead of working also = "not focusing on tasks"

    4) Just because you can hide what you're doing doesn't make it ok at all, and IT can see everything.

    I can't bold on my phone so I'll do the best I can.

    1) The campaign I had been calling on was one if the hardest ones in the call center I was working at. No matter how many times I tried to get the people to answer my questions, they wouldn't and my leads dropped. The manager even said it was because of the campaign.

    2) I left for the day and then an hour later received the call from the temp agency. My boss said nothing to me when I left for the day that he wouldn't see me the next day nor did he ask for his office key back. I had to mail it back to him.

    3) Which is why I try to limit it. But I am doing very well here to the point that my managers say I am their most productive employee and since my dials and leads are so well they wouldn't care if I was on my phone all day or whatever since I still get my job done.
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  • And here we go with the excuses..... 

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  • Listen, you can call them excuses. But I have seen other people on these boards talk about going through therapists and not finding the one that works for them. Given the hours I work and how long it takes me to get home from work, I have not looked into a new therapist yet. I know it is something I should look into but I would like to find one that works with my hours and my life.

    I just haven't found that yet.
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  • wink0erin said:

    Yeah I'm not even gonna. I see a pattern already and I wasn't even here before. That's just...

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