Hi!
I've been scouring the internet for proper etiquette on wording the hosts on invitations for my specific scenario. My parents are paying for most of the wedding, however my fiance and I are contributing money and a lot of time into planning (it's a destination wedding). His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. So who technically qualifies as the host(s) and gets listed on the invitations? I don't want people feeling left out nor giving credit when it's not due. Help!
Re: Host Determination/Multiple Hosts (Invitations)
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Bride's first middle
to
Mr. Groom's Full Name
Day, date
time o'clock
Venue Name
City, State or Country
Others have said that paying is not the same as hosting, but if your parents are paying for most of the wedding, then, yes, they ARE hosting. If Mom and Dad are paying for the dinner, then they should be listed as hosts. On the other hand, if they just handed you some cash and said "Use this for your wedding," then that isn't hosting.
It's not a helpful experience to ask, say, one set of the parents if there will be dishes on the menu tailored to your particular dietary needs or about babysitting options for your kids or whatever, only to be told "You have to ask the bride/the groom/the other parents because we're just on the invitation symbolically."
I'd do "together with our parents" or similar. My parents paid for about 2/3, we paid for the other 1/3. But it didn't feel right to say "us and the bride's parents" or whatever.
I think the days of feeling like the invitation is this way to point out who is paying have gone away.