My boyfriend of 3 years proposed just this past weekend, but he and I have been slowly and casually planning our wedding for a few months.
I know it's a cardinal sin to start planning before or immediately after the engagement, but we both agreed we were ready to start making it happen, and he really wants to get married next October so we agreed we should start sooner than later.
But it seems like the moment he proposed, the reality of wedding planning really set in for him and now he's suddenly a bundle of nerves and anxiety. He has bad social anxiety and is really nervous about reading vows and being around all our relatives and he's feeling very overwhelmed by everything that goes into a wedding. He didn't really know anything about wedding planning and hadn't been to many, so he's worried he's going to get too bogged down before we get any planning done. Money is really stressing him out too, even though both our families have told us that between all of them, they'll make sure we don't have to pay for much.
I delegated two small jobs to him for the time being (making our wedding website and working with my aunt on our catering menu, which are things he personally showed interest in and things I know that don't need to be done immediately) and told him not to worry about anything else right now and just offer his opinion on things I show him / tell him about. I told him I would handle any phone calls and I'd do all the talking in venue meetings (two big sources of anxiety for him) but he still seems too stressed out for it to still be a full year before the wedding.
He's super excited, but he's also so nervous and anxious I'm afraid he's going to kill over from a heart attack before we even make it to the big day! He's stressing over things we don't even have to make a decision on yet! How can I help convince my future hubby to relax and enjoy the process?