I'm getting married in June 2016 and my maid of honor lives out of state. She is helping to plan my plantation themed bridal shower with my matron of honor but will only be able to make it in town in February before our wedding due to finances. I want her to be able to make it to one of the pre-wedding events, especially since she is helping to plan it, but I also know that typical etiquette says you should only have your bridal shower about 2 months prior to the wedding. Is this an outdated rule? Is it acceptable to have your bridal shower 4 months before your wedding? Thanks!