So my wedding is coming up next summer, and I have 1 MOH and 1 BM. My fiance only has a Best Man. He is very introverted and shy and prefers to be alone. He doesn't want a Groomsman. (This doesn't actually matter, but I wanted to state this now in case someone asks.)
At the time when I was planning my guestlist, I had invited a co-worker to be my BM. She said yes. Our relationship was only through work, but we were pretty close (at work). We had only met outside of work once because both of our schedules were so busy, or we just didn't feel like it, etc. She would invite me to go to her house, but I'm not interested in the type of things she was (she's a social butterfly and is kind of a party girl; I'm quiet and would rather read a book); the same goes for the reverse.
Anyway, as of ~3 months ago, I left the company. I no longer see her. In fact, I haven't seen her since my last day at my old job. Likewise, we have sent each other texts during these 3 months approximately 4 times. The communication is non-existent. I attempted to call her once and I left a voicemail, but she never returned the call and has never attempted to call me, as far as I'm aware.
I mailed her a save-the-date, but she hasn't asked anything about BM status. She's also in a rough financial situation and wouldn't be able to afford any dresses, so I would have to take the bill; however, I myself am in a rough patch since I'm putting myself through school currently completely out of pocket.
I'm questioning if (1) we even had a true friendship to begin with, and (2) if I should "kick her out." At this point I don't even think it would phase her. I don't mean that in a mean way, but our relationship has deteriorated to the point where we don't communicate anymore, so...
I just want some feedback from some other brides/BMs here because I keep going between "call her and tell her exactly what's going on and why you cannot have her anymore" and "call her and invite her to get fitted for her dress and get the credit card ready."