My FI proposed to me two months ago, and it was amazing and perfect in every way. Except the ring. It's my FMIL's engagement ring, and its my FI's family tradition for the ring to be passed from the groom's mother to bride, and has been going on for 4 generations at least, possibly more.
The thing is, its horrible, in my opinion, its not my style at all. I'm not into antique jewellery, I'm not a fan of gold on my skin tone, and I'm not a lover of diamonds, and is is all of those things, and its very fussy in my opinion; I've managed to scratch myself on it three times already. I've been trying to love it, or even like it, for the past two months, and I really just can't. I look at it and cringe.
Had FI picked it himself, I would have had no real issue telling him I didn't like it, if I'm being honest. But it's his mother's ring and his grandmother's ring, and I'm scared of offending both of them as well as FI. FMIL and I don't get on very well at the best of times, and are just beginning to start a real relationship, and I know if I reject this ring, it'll be a massive step-back in that relationship. But I also know I can't wear it for the rest of my life.