What color shoe for bridesmaids

Knottie84273670

I have attached a file of the color and dress my bridesmaids will be wearing. I was wondering if people can suggest a color shoe to go with this dress other than the color shoe shown (black). Would nude or silver work? I would prefer something neutral instead of bright. Wedding colors are navy, grey/silver, white, nature green and blush.

justsie

Knottie84273670 said:

I have attached a file of the color and dress my bridesmaids will be wearing. I was wondering if people can suggest a color shoe to go with this dress other than the color shoe shown (black). Would nude or silver work? I would prefer something neutral instead of bright. Wedding colors are navy, grey/silver, white, nature green and blush.

I would just let your BM's wear whatever shoe they felt comfortable with and had available. You could say a neutral color like black/nude, something that they probably already have. 

frenchiekin

Ditto PP - just tell them to wear any neutral color, especially if they already own one and don't need to buy a new pair for the wedding.  I would personally wear either nude or silver/grey.  I promise you won't even notice or care on the wedding day!

artbyallie

There is no need to tell your bridesmaids what color shoe to wear. Presumably they are adults and capable of accessorizing their own outfits.

ryanandjoe4

This is not something to worry about if they ask say neutral, or wedding color.. but any color would go with the gray, and they are adults, and you wont see the shoe anyways in that long dress unless they stand all awkward like the model..

MairePoppy

It's okay to ask them to wear any grey/silver or white shoes. Or they may all own nude pumps that they could wear. If you specifiy dressy, blush or green colored sandals, then you should pick up the cost.

msuprincess04

With that dress, I'd go with grey/silver. It's a neutral color, so they may already have some that work, and it would go well with the dress.

labro

I think I'd love either a gray/dark gray/silver shoe with that dress. Just ask them to wear any gray or silver shoe and you should be fine! My bridesmaids had a range of gray or silver heels/sandals/flats and it was 100% fine. Nobody will notice or care anyway.

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labro said:

I think I'd love either a gray/dark gray/silver shoe with that dress. Just ask them to wear any gray or silver shoe and you should be fine! My bridesmaids had a range of gray or silver heels/sandals/flats and it was 100% fine. Nobody will notice or care anyway.

Is it possible to just not care about the color of their shoes? I hate shoes. I don't own gray shoes. If I was forced to buy gray shoes, I'd never wear them again. If you gave me zero directions about shoes, I'd pick out something that not only looked good with the dress, but that I'd be able to wear again at a different time. Let your fashion maven wear a fuschia pump. Let me wear a white flat. I just don't think it matters.

labro

adk19 said:

labro said:

I think I'd love either a gray/dark gray/silver shoe with that dress. Just ask them to wear any gray or silver shoe and you should be fine! My bridesmaids had a range of gray or silver heels/sandals/flats and it was 100% fine. Nobody will notice or care anyway.

Is it possible to just not care about the color of their shoes? I hate shoes. I don't own gray shoes. If I was forced to buy gray shoes, I'd never wear them again. If you gave me zero directions about shoes, I'd pick out something that not only looked good with the dress, but that I'd be able to wear again at a different time. Let your fashion maven wear a fuschia pump. Let me wear a white flat. I just don't think it matters.

Honestly, I cared. I think it isn't a big deal for a bride TO care if she wants to. Gray/charcoal/silver in any shoe =/= asking your bridesmaids to all buy identical fuschia pumps. Sue me - my bridesmaids bought matching dresses too. I preferred cohesion and it isn't wrong to want that as long as you're asking something within reason (ie taking into consideration budget and basic neutral choices for shoes).

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labro said:

I think I'd love either a gray/dark gray/silver shoe with that dress. Just ask them to wear any gray or silver shoe and you should be fine! My bridesmaids had a range of gray or silver heels/sandals/flats and it was 100% fine. Nobody will notice or care anyway.

Is it possible to just not care about the color of their shoes? I hate shoes. I don't own gray shoes. If I was forced to buy gray shoes, I'd never wear them again. If you gave me zero directions about shoes, I'd pick out something that not only looked good with the dress, but that I'd be able to wear again at a different time. Let your fashion maven wear a fuschia pump. Let me wear a white flat. I just don't think it matters.

Honestly, I cared. I think it isn't a big deal for a bride TO care if she wants to. Gray/charcoal/silver in any shoe =/= asking your bridesmaids to all buy identical fuschia pumps. Sue me - my bridesmaids bought matching dresses too. I preferred cohesion and it isn't wrong to want that as long as you're asking something within reason (ie taking into consideration budget and basic neutral choices for shoes).

So, if you do care about your BMs shoes, wouldn't you already know what color shoe you care about?  I guess I figure that if you're come to TK forums for advice on what color shoe would go well with this dress, you probably don't care too much about what shoe they actually wear.  If you don't care, let each one of them decide on their own.  If you DO care, you'll know what you want them to wear.  Is that fair?

labro

adk19 said:

labro said:

I think I'd love either a gray/dark gray/silver shoe with that dress. Just ask them to wear any gray or silver shoe and you should be fine! My bridesmaids had a range of gray or silver heels/sandals/flats and it was 100% fine. Nobody will notice or care anyway.

Is it possible to just not care about the color of their shoes? I hate shoes. I don't own gray shoes. If I was forced to buy gray shoes, I'd never wear them again. If you gave me zero directions about shoes, I'd pick out something that not only looked good with the dress, but that I'd be able to wear again at a different time. Let your fashion maven wear a fuschia pump. Let me wear a white flat. I just don't think it matters.

Honestly, I cared. I think it isn't a big deal for a bride TO care if she wants to. Gray/charcoal/silver in any shoe =/= asking your bridesmaids to all buy identical fuschia pumps. Sue me - my bridesmaids bought matching dresses too. I preferred cohesion and it isn't wrong to want that as long as you're asking something within reason (ie taking into consideration budget and basic neutral choices for shoes).

So, if you do care about your BMs shoes, wouldn't you already know what color shoe you care about?  I guess I figure that if you're come to TK forums for advice on what color shoe would go well with this dress, you probably don't care too much about what shoe they actually wear.  If you don't care, let each one of them decide on their own.  If you DO care, you'll know what you want them to wear.  Is that fair?

I'd call that a fair and accurate statement most of the time. I'd also say that people know they want something, but potentially aren't 100% sure of what, or want color opinions (which obviously the A&A board is the better place for that). The OP did state she had preferences, and she knew she didn't like the shoe pictured. I'm sure we've all come here at one point or another on feedback for a decision, or even suggestions. I know I did.

Ghostie625

Agree with gray or silver, maybe nude.

lembaslover

I told my bridesmaids to wear any color/style of shoe they wanted... I honestly can't tell you what any of them picked and it's only been like 3 weeks... No one is looking at their shoes. I understand the arguments for (and against) matching dresses. To me that makes more sense, it's hard to not notice the dress. I just don't see why shoes matter. 

Honestly I was told once to get silver shoes. I could not find any I like because it felt like all silver shoes that year had tons of bling on them and that isn't something I'd wear again. Luckily the bride was cool and when I found a pair of grey pumps she was cool with it. Similar story with a gold dress for my SIL's wedding. I couldn't find gold I liked but I found a goldish champagne color dress I loved and she was cool with it. Bottom line is shoes don't matter but if for some reason they do to you give guidelines but be flexible...

spockforprez

marriedhamstermom said:

I told my bridesmaids to wear any color/style of shoe they wanted... I honestly can't tell you what any of them picked and it's only been like 3 weeks... No one is looking at their shoes. I understand the arguments for (and against) matching dresses. To me that makes more sense, it's hard to not notice the dress. I just don't see why shoes matter. 

Honestly I was told once to get silver shoes. I could not find any I like because it felt like all silver shoes that year had tons of bling on them and that isn't something I'd wear again. Luckily the bride was cool and when I found a pair of grey pumps she was cool with it. Similar story with a gold dress for my SIL's wedding. I couldn't find gold I liked but I found a goldish champagne color dress I loved and she was cool with it. Bottom line is shoes don't matter but if for some reason they do to you give guidelines but be flexible...

I had to buy silver shoes for a wedding recently. (ETA I was a bridesmaid.) Due to my gigantic size 11 feet, selection was limited and I had to order online. I went through three pairs before saying fuck it and keeping the last pair. My feet hurt so badly the day of that I had to take them off when I went behind the podium to do my reading. Silver shoes are the devil!!!

GlamQueenBride

Are you paying for the shoes? If so, go with silver.

lyndausvi

I like the contrast of the black.  Plus most people already have a pair of black shoes.

Next would be gray or silver.  Although I do not own gray, silver or even nude shoes.  So I would have buy a new pair.

JediElizabeth

adk19 said:

labro said:

I think I'd love either a gray/dark gray/silver shoe with that dress. Just ask them to wear any gray or silver shoe and you should be fine! My bridesmaids had a range of gray or silver heels/sandals/flats and it was 100% fine. Nobody will notice or care anyway.

Is it possible to just not care about the color of their shoes? I hate shoes. I don't own gray shoes. If I was forced to buy gray shoes, I'd never wear them again. If you gave me zero directions about shoes, I'd pick out something that not only looked good with the dress, but that I'd be able to wear again at a different time. Let your fashion maven wear a fuschia pump. Let me wear a white flat. I just don't think it matters.

Honestly, I cared. I think it isn't a big deal for a bride TO care if she wants to. Gray/charcoal/silver in any shoe =/= asking your bridesmaids to all buy identical fuschia pumps. Sue me - my bridesmaids bought matching dresses too. I preferred cohesion and it isn't wrong to want that as long as you're asking something within reason (ie taking into consideration budget and basic neutral choices for shoes).

So, if you do care about your BMs shoes, wouldn't you already know what color shoe you care about?  I guess I figure that if you're come to TK forums for advice on what color shoe would go well with this dress, you probably don't care too much about what shoe they actually wear.  If you don't care, let each one of them decide on their own.  If you DO care, you'll know what you want them to wear.  Is that fair?

Seriously? We give brides advice about things they care about all the time. Which of two wedding dresses they should choose..What color BM dress will go best with their theme...Invitation wording.

Just because you care about something doesn't mean you know what you want, and to imply that it does is pretty silly. 

FWIW, I like black, silver or gray with that dress, or a jewel tone if it goes with the wedding colors and the bride is paying. I don't like the idea of a nude shoe with it, personally. 

peachy13

I personally told my bridesmaids to wear whatever shoes they wanted. They wore long dresses and no one could see their shoes. I literally don't even know what they ended up wearing.

frenchiekin

peachy13 said:

I personally told my bridesmaids to wear whatever shoes they wanted. They wore long dresses and no one could see their shoes. I literally don't even know what they ended up wearing.

Same.  The only BM's shoes I remember were my younger SIL, because hers were this awesome fuschia color that she showed me beforehand and I was obsessed with them.  I could not tell you for the life of me what the other 4 were wearing because they had long dresses - and my wedding was only 6 weeks ago and we just got our photos back this weekend.  Can't see anyone's shoes.

SP29

I'd go silver with that dress myself. 

My BMs wore different coloured shoes- one wore sparkly silver, the other wore nude. 

Blackbird230

I would go silver with that dress. My BMs are in a plum dress and I've asked them to get any nude colored shoe (heel or flat, whatever they are comfortable in.) I just don't like black with plum. They all are pretty chill about it and don't see it as a big request at all. 

hellohkb

adk19 said:

labro said:

I think I'd love either a gray/dark gray/silver shoe with that dress. Just ask them to wear any gray or silver shoe and you should be fine! My bridesmaids had a range of gray or silver heels/sandals/flats and it was 100% fine. Nobody will notice or care anyway.

Is it possible to just not care about the color of their shoes? I hate shoes. I don't own gray shoes. If I was forced to buy gray shoes, I'd never wear them again. If you gave me zero directions about shoes, I'd pick out something that not only looked good with the dress, but that I'd be able to wear again at a different time. Let your fashion maven wear a fuschia pump. Let me wear a white flat. I just don't think it matters.

I also am not a shoe person. I don't own any dressy silver shoes (I hate the way they look, personally). I'd suggest tell them to pick any neutral. I'd much rather buy a nude shoe than a silver or grey shoe. TBH, the dress is so long this seems like a none issue, no one will notice or care.

100yroldblinddog

spockforprez said:

marriedhamstermom said:

I told my bridesmaids to wear any color/style of shoe they wanted... I honestly can't tell you what any of them picked and it's only been like 3 weeks... No one is looking at their shoes. I understand the arguments for (and against) matching dresses. To me that makes more sense, it's hard to not notice the dress. I just don't see why shoes matter. 

Honestly I was told once to get silver shoes. I could not find any I like because it felt like all silver shoes that year had tons of bling on them and that isn't something I'd wear again. Luckily the bride was cool and when I found a pair of grey pumps she was cool with it. Similar story with a gold dress for my SIL's wedding. I couldn't find gold I liked but I found a goldish champagne color dress I loved and she was cool with it. Bottom line is shoes don't matter but if for some reason they do to you give guidelines but be flexible...

I had to buy silver shoes for a wedding recently. (ETA I was a bridesmaid.) Due to my gigantic size 11 feet, selection was limited and I had to order online. I went through three pairs before saying fuck it and keeping the last pair. My feet hurt so badly the day of that I had to take them off when I went behind the podium to do my reading. Silver shoes are the devil!!!

***SIB***

@spockforprez RESPECT! I too have gigantic size 11 feet. You just brought me back to the wedding I was in where we were all required to wear matching shoes (shoe requirement being something that causes panic anyway), where the selected shoe was an 'illusion' strappy silver (GD silver...), with the illusion being clear plastic behind it to keep people for sausage-footing everywhere. Oh, and the heel? LUCITE.

That said, I like seeing the same color shoe at a wedding, but maybe that's because I'm envious of bridesmaids' normal-sized feet. My girls are all wearing the same color for a long dress that has a notable slit.

(ETA for grammar)