This is my husband and I on our wedding day in 2011.
Almost 5 years ago I came onto this website because I was 18 and I wanted to
marry my High School sweetheart. I asked for decorating advice, that’s all.
Instead, I got NOVELS from people telling me I was stupid, that I was naive
& ignorant and that I WOULD be getting a divorce. People giving me life advice, instead. I just
wanted help with my colors.
I was bombarded with dozens of replies like this:
"LOL... I hope this is MUD.
If not, I’ll be laughing at you when you come running back
in a few months crying about your divorce.”
"Is this MUD? Otherwise... you are a stupid little girl and will be disappointed with your divorce in two months time."
"Stupid bitch, this website is for REAL brides, not High Schoolers in puppy love. You don't love him. Give it a year and you'll see we're all right."
"If he isn't already cheating on you, he will. Men your age cheat and are not ready for the commitment. Neither are you. Call it off while you can."
"This has got to be a troll, LOL!!!!"
The awful things people were saying to me made me cry. They
made me upset because I was being cyber bullied by a bunch of brides who
I incorrectly assumed would help me with color choices but instead called me and my husband names. I'd been in love with him for four years;
we could not picture ourselves with anyone else.
We got married. I picked plum, tangerine and maroon for my fall wedding colors.
It was beautiful. We laughed the whole
night, we cried, we got pizza in our tux & gown at 3 in the morning because
we could. It was the best day of my life.
Yep, getting married at 18 and moving out together is hard. We had times we ate
ramen and we had times we didn’t use heating in our apartment because we
couldn’t afford it. We used to spend $100 a MONTH on groceries. We got chunky
together and got fit together. He held me through all of the doctor
visits that eventually turned into a Crohn’s diagnosis. We supported one another through shitty entry jobs and cheered one another on
when we got promotions or found something better. We built a life together from
the bottom up. No matter the struggle, the one thing that was always easy was the love we have for one another.
We just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. We did so with
buying our first home together. We do cartwheels down the halls. We hang our pictures on the wall and reminisce about just how far we've come. We still can’t
picture ourselves with anyone else. We still love one another unconditionally,
and most importantly we never once thought of divorcing.
Actually, we are planning our vow renewal for our 5 year anniversary. We want
to laugh, and cry, and get pizza in our tux & gown at 3 in the morning
because we can. I want a second best day of my life… and a third, and a fourth
every 5 years for the rest of our lives.
I just wanted to come here and tell
you all that love comes in all shapes, sizes and AGES.
Be kind to one another.