Two of my bridesmaids have offered to throw me a kitchen shower, and asked me if a certain date worked for me. I had nothing planned for that date so I told them it would work, but a week later found out that it is the same date as one of my bridesmaid's brothers wedding. Nobody else invited to the shower is close to her family and would not be invited to his wedding, myself included. The only person that would not be able to make it would be that one particular bridesmaid.
I don't want to ask the two bridesmaids that are hosting to move the date, I am just thankful that they offered to throw me one and certainly don't want to start making demands. Not to mention they have already asked a restaurant to hold the date and I live 6 hours away from my hometown (where all of my BMs live), and that was one of the few dates that would've worked for me and hosts. The bridesmaid who wouldn't be able to make it is also throwing me a linen shower the following month.
My mom insists that I am being extremely rude to have a shower that day. I didn't think it was a big deal but I definitely don't want to come across as rude or inconsiderate. Should I ask the hosts to move the date?