Just to get it out of the way: this is going to be a 45-person wedding in a restaurant's event space. So I'm not talking about tackling some insanely lavish ballroom ordeal. We are adhering to a 6.5K-ish budget-- and in NYC, which has been quite a feat.
But the thing is this: More than half the guest list is coming in from out of state. We aren't having a bridal party, but that's canceling out the traditional ~assigning~ of stuff. My BFF lives in Florida and just had a baby a few months ago so we've not really been apt to talk about a wedding... in fact most of my closest friends are out of town. Two friends, who are local, who I would trust to be able to tackle day-of situations I haven't dared to ask yet because... welp, one just got married last Sunday. And the other was her wedding's head honcho. Head Honcho asked me the other day if any "wedding-related events like a bachelorette" were happening before the actual wedding date so she could schedule a trip, and I had to admit I wasn't inclined to schedule my own bachelorette so I didn't think so. "Assign that stuff!" she said, "I'd offer to help but I'm wiped out after months working on the other wedding." ...Which is fair. And what I expected. But a bummer. And you know, I can't imagine the newlywed bride is going to be itching to throw herself into wedding planning again.
I want to ask my BFF and other friends in Florida if they might be game to help out but that feels like a lot, considering they're going to be traveling in. One thing I am certain of, is a wedding planner is out of our budget.
I'm terribly anxious about this sort of thing and not the best planner, and I'm feeling kind of alone. My fiancé, awesome as he is, is not necessarily excited to dive in and help either.
This is partly a vent and partly asking for advice: Should I ask my local wedding-weary friends? My out of town friends? Can I do this on my own?