I am getting married in August and it is both my fiance's and my second marriage. I didn't have a first wedding, he had a HUGE $40,000 affair for his. We are keeping it low key Saturday afternoon lunch reception, just family and the wedding party for like 100 people. I have tried to include his sister but she has decided that it's a second wedding and we shouldn't have ANYTHING. She also thinks since we are doing a honey fund that we are only having the wedding for gifts. Not true since my father is 72 with cancer and never walked me down the aisle so the wedding is for ME.
To that end, sis-in-law convinced father-in-law that he should tell fiance not to invite his out of town family. Which has really hurt my fiance.
My fiance wants to invite them, and feels it will hurt their feelings if we don't. Our compromise position is to include his family in the save the date cards and put some kind of wording on the back letting his family know that we are simply letting them know he is getting married, that they are welcome if they want to come, but don't need too and gifts are not necessary.
Could you help me with some wording for this.. I am an author so I tend to be REALLY bad about this stuff
And the stuff about sis-inlaw was because I needed to vent we've all been there