Odd wedding invitation

holyguacamole79

On my project, we have a team based in India. I've been working with them for 3 months, and have never met them in person (and probably won't). Last night, one of them sent an email inviting me (and possibly others ... it was bcc) to his sister's wedding. The wedding is in 2 weeks and is in India.

I'm sure he meant well ... I was like 'whaaaa???'

What's making you go 'whaaaa?' today?

thisismynickname2

The gesture was nice; buying a plane ticket to India for two weeks away is not!

What made me go "whhha?" yesterday was a news article that PETA gave away fur coats to the homeless in my city. The nice part is that the coats were donated by women who wouldn't wear the fur anymore; the "damage" has been done so rather than destroy the coats PETA gave them to women who needed coats. The "whhhaaa" part is that it's apparently not ok for rich women to wear fur but it's ok for homeless, AND, I'm sorry, but this is a cruel world- a homeless person on the street wearing a fur coat is going to be robbed of it so someone else can get money off it. Just... Just...

labro

I don't think it's soooooooooooo weird I guess. H gets emailed wedding invitations every once in awhile from co-workers getting married in India or who have family in India. It could be just a cultural thing to open the wedding up to anyone and everyone.

What I really want is one of them to just get married in the US so I can actually go!!!!

holyguacamole79

@labro ,I wondered if it was cultural, too.

anjemon

As I was getting dressed this morning I looked up and found the box for the Christmas pyramid on the top shelf in my closet. I have been looking for that stupid box for at least 2 weeks. Apparently H decided at some point that was where the box belonged, not in the garage or in either of our spare rooms. Nope, an entire floor away from the actual decoration and a totally random spot.

Which sort of leads into a SO vent, my H is terrible about "putting things away" (ie not in the main space) and not remembering where it is later. So things get moved and then neither of us have any idea where it is.

lembaslover

thisismynickname said:

The gesture was nice; buying a plane ticket to India for two weeks away is not!

What made me go "whhha?" yesterday was a news article that PETA gave away fur coats to the homeless in my city. The nice part is that the coats were donated by women who wouldn't wear the fur anymore; the "damage" has been done so rather than destroy the coats PETA gave them to women who needed coats. The "whhhaaa" part is that it's apparently not ok for rich women to wear fur but it's ok for homeless, AND, I'm sorry, but this is a cruel world- a homeless person on the street wearing a fur coat is going to be robbed of it so someone else can get money off it. Just... Just...

I think it's a nice gesture. It's not that they are saying rich people can't wear it poor people can, they are saying these rich people chose to not wear this anymore because it doesn't sit well with them to own it and they won't buy anymore however the damage has already been done for this coat so let someone who needs it wear it. I'm a vegetarian and if I won say a turkey at a work raffle at thanksgiving well I'm not going to eat it so I'd donate it. It doesn't mean it's wrong for me and ok for them it means I'm not going to eat it and it already died so I might as well give it to someone who will use it. 

I do agree though that it's not the smartest plan since the person who receives will probably be robbed. I think their heart is in the right place though. 

huskypuppy14

marriedhamstermom said:

thisismynickname said:

The gesture was nice; buying a plane ticket to India for two weeks away is not!

What made me go "whhha?" yesterday was a news article that PETA gave away fur coats to the homeless in my city. The nice part is that the coats were donated by women who wouldn't wear the fur anymore; the "damage" has been done so rather than destroy the coats PETA gave them to women who needed coats. The "whhhaaa" part is that it's apparently not ok for rich women to wear fur but it's ok for homeless, AND, I'm sorry, but this is a cruel world- a homeless person on the street wearing a fur coat is going to be robbed of it so someone else can get money off it. Just... Just...

I think it's a nice gesture. It's not that they are saying rich people can't wear it poor people can, they are saying these rich people chose to not wear this anymore because it doesn't sit well with them to own it and they won't buy anymore however the damage has already been done for this coat so let someone who needs it wear it. I'm a vegetarian and if I won say a turkey at a work raffle at thanksgiving well I'm not going to eat it so I'd donate it. It doesn't mean it's wrong for me and ok for them it means I'm not going to eat it and it already died so I might as well give it to someone who will use it. 

I do agree though that it's not the smartest plan since the person who receives will probably be robbed. I think their heart is in the right place though. 

Yeah, but it's PETA, not some random individual woman who doesn't want to wear fur anymore, which would then make it similar to your turkey argument.

PETA was known for throwing blood on rich women wearing fur, and harrassing them, so that's where the "it's not ok for people who can afford to wear it but it's ok for the homeless" comes from.

RomanceManaged

FI and I were moving some stuff around in the living room, and apparently had a squirrel living in our oak entertainment center. Spent the better part of the day catching the thing, and then releasing it outside. I have no idea how it came in the house, or how long its been there.

drunkenwitch

RomanceManaged said:

FI and I were moving some stuff around in the living room, and apparently had a squirrel living in our oak entertainment center. Spent the better part of the day catching the thing, and then releasing it outside. I have no idea how it came in the house, or how long its been there.

https://player.vimeo.com/video/6442040

Trust me, funniest 15 minutes of your life. You're welcome

RomanceManaged

That. Was. AMAZING

drunkenwitch

RomanceManaged said:

That. Was. AMAZING

I love introducing people to that story.

luckya23

My husband's cousin's mother in law was offended that we didn't invite her to our wedding because "we are family." I was like "whaaaaaa?" but MIL said oh of course she's invited to everything from now on, and she also did come to the wedding.  She's Pakistani.  I guess it's typical over in that part of the world to invite everyone, especially "family"!

drunkenwitch

luckya23 said:

My husband's cousin's mother in law was offended that we didn't invite her to our wedding because "we are family." I was like "whaaaaaa?" but MIL said oh of course she's invited to everything from now on, and she also did come to the wedding.  She's Pakistani.  I guess it's typical over in that part of the world to invite everyone, especially "family"!

Lords of light, I don't even talk to my cousins (maybe I could identify them by sight, maybe not) let alone their inlaws. That s just plain weird.

glasgowtolondon

I work with a lot of colleagues in India in my job and they always send me an invite to their weddings, its just a cultural thing - the weddings are kind of open to all. Its a sweet gesture. I actually have one of my colleagues over in the UK right now and as I was telling her about my wedding (she asked) she said 'oh I hope I'm in London next October, I will definitely attend your wedding'.......cue awkward silence from me!

kimmiinthemitten

My whaaaa moment came from back to back weekends of bridal shows. What's up with brides who show up in tiaras and sashes and "bride" tee shirts and heels. You're walking on concrete and I'm pretty sure I can figure out who the bride is when you enter the booth and I say "congratulations." (Pro tip the bride is the one who says thanks! )

Oh but you're speshul and don't want anyone else to steal your thunder, especially your sister or BFF who came with you.

Knottie1452887643

Not really weird but it's best to double check the accuracy of it. Lots of scammers these days for sure! And if it's indeed true, then it's certainly a cultural thing. Be appreciative that they've actually took the effort of sending you an invite and know that they think of you.

holyguacamole79

Knottie1452887643 said:

Not really weird but it's best to double check the accuracy of it. Lots of scammers these days for sure! And if it's indeed true, then it's certainly a cultural thing. Be appreciative that they've actually took the effort of sending you an invite and know that they think of you.

Ummm, not a scammer. This is a guy I work with on a daily basis.

holyguacamole79

glasgowtolondon said:

I work with a lot of colleagues in India in my job and they always send me an invite to their weddings, its just a cultural thing - the weddings are kind of open to all. Its a sweet gesture. I actually have one of my colleagues over in the UK right now and as I was telling her about my wedding (she asked) she said 'oh I hope I'm in London next October, I will definitely attend your wedding'.......cue awkward silence from me!

Yeah, I had a feeling it was a cultural thing. I just found it additionally odd that it's his sister's wedding.

lyndausvi

huskypuppy14 said:

marriedhamstermom said:

thisismynickname said:

The gesture was nice; buying a plane ticket to India for two weeks away is not!

What made me go "whhha?" yesterday was a news article that PETA gave away fur coats to the homeless in my city. The nice part is that the coats were donated by women who wouldn't wear the fur anymore; the "damage" has been done so rather than destroy the coats PETA gave them to women who needed coats. The "whhhaaa" part is that it's apparently not ok for rich women to wear fur but it's ok for homeless, AND, I'm sorry, but this is a cruel world- a homeless person on the street wearing a fur coat is going to be robbed of it so someone else can get money off it. Just... Just...

I think it's a nice gesture. It's not that they are saying rich people can't wear it poor people can, they are saying these rich people chose to not wear this anymore because it doesn't sit well with them to own it and they won't buy anymore however the damage has already been done for this coat so let someone who needs it wear it. I'm a vegetarian and if I won say a turkey at a work raffle at thanksgiving well I'm not going to eat it so I'd donate it. It doesn't mean it's wrong for me and ok for them it means I'm not going to eat it and it already died so I might as well give it to someone who will use it. 

I do agree though that it's not the smartest plan since the person who receives will probably be robbed. I think their heart is in the right place though. 

Yeah, but it's PETA, not some random individual woman who doesn't want to wear fur anymore, which would then make it similar to your turkey argument.

PETA was known for throwing blood on rich women wearing fur, and harrassing them, so that's where the "it's not ok for people who can afford to wear it but it's ok for the homeless" comes from.

I agree.

monkeysip

A few of my Dad's ex coworkers from Taiwan and Singapore flew all the way to Houston for my wedding.  I'd never met them.  They also brought big expensive gifts.

It was so weird... but nice of them

memorableindianweddings

Yup, Indians (and I am too) are like that. An average guestlist is 500 guests and you might know only 50 and really know only 20! 

Its more about respect and acknowledgement that they remembered the other person and invited!

Though, now, people are working on making there weddings "the real" ones with only those guests to be invited who really mean to them.. 

short+sassy

holyguacamole79 said:

On my project, we have a team based in India. I've been working with them for 3 months, and have never met them in person (and probably won't). Last night, one of them sent an email inviting me (and possibly others ... it was bcc) to his sister's wedding. The wedding is in 2 weeks and is in India. I'm sure he meant well ... I was like 'whaaaa???' What's making you go 'whaaaa?' today?

Oh!  I initially missed the part about it being his sister's wedding.  That does sound odd, but then I'm not really familiar with Indian culture.

I had a coworker in a previous job who invited all of us to his wedding in Thailand (where he and his fiancé were originally from).  It didn't come off as a gift grab and I thought it was sweet.  When he came back, he gave each of us their shot glass wedding favor.  Most of us pitched in on a wedding present, but we would have done that anyway, invitations or not.

holyguacamole79

@memorableindianweddings , this thread had been dead since January.  It's bad form to resurrect a zombie.

ScottishSarah

I have India friends from work and their guest lists look like their Facebook friends lists!  Plus in India if you invited someone, you would often invite their close family (mum dad sister etc) as well as their SO.  

It's a cultural thing.

ScottishSarah

Sorry didn't realise this thread was so old!