showers, and for that matter, baby showers, are supposed to be informal
gatherings of the honoree’s close friends, who give charming little
(repeat: little) presents befitting the circumstances-to-be. For the
honoree’s parents to give showers, whether or not they can afford to do
so, not only looks vulgar because of the focus on presents, but also
destroys the premise.
monster showers given today have become a burden on both hosts and
guests, another in a series of events designed to collect whatever goods
the honorees have announced that they want."
Keep it simple. Everyone likes cake.
As a bride, I had the same question. My bridesmaids asked me for a guestlist, but I keep staring at my guest list and asking where the cutoff is. Every woman invited to the wedding? Local women only? Closest friends and relatives only? The venue provides no clue since it can do outdoor parties of about 60 and indoor parties of up to about 20 and the weather should be just fine for outdoors. I've compiled a full list of all the women, but I'm going to talk to my bridesmaids again before I hand it over.