I've had a step-sister for about 10 years now who I never really spent much time with b/c she was on her own and I lived with my grandmother when our parents re-married.
2 years ago, my step-sister had her first child and the family banded together to support her as she was a single mom. Now, instead of never seeing her, we see her every other holiday or so.
In selecting my bridal party, I figured it would be a good idea to include her, so I asked her to be a bridesmaid. She smiled and said with a disappointed tone of voice "I thought I was gonna skate by without having to be in this one. I've been in lots of weddings...I guess I'm the go-to person." She said she would do it and asked that I keep her posted, but there was ZERO enthusiasm in her response. Naturally, I took this to mean that she didn't truly want to do it, but was agreeing out of obligation. The next morning, I sent her a text stating that I really didn't want to make her do anything she didn't truly want to. She responded by saying that she had been brain-fried from at-work classes the day before and not meaning to give the impression that she didn't want to be a bridesmaid, that she really wanted to be a part of my special day and hoped it would help solidify our relationship as sisters. I chose not to respond to her text because I honestly didn't know whether I even wanted her to be a maid anymore, especially after her statement about "skating by without HAVING to be in the wedding." She ran to her father (my step-father) who is now super concerned that his daughter may not be in the wedding. Apparently, she fed him a line about thinking I already had my party chosen and only asked her as a last resort because I had no one else who would do it (where did that even come from???)
My grandmother, groom and step-father all feel I should give her another shot and hope this is a lesson for her to learn how to choose her words carefully in the future...
Should I buckle and give her another shot, knowing what her initial attitude was, or should I stick to my guns and not risk it?