I'm going to start this off by saying that I love my mom. She's practically my best friend since I moved out. However when I got engaged my aunt (by marriage) offered to help with some things including my honeymoon. She has the money to spare and my parents dont. I asked my parents about it and they encouraged me to take her up on this, however she's now upset anytime I ask my aunt anything about wedding etiquette. My parents weren't able to have a big wedding, they went to the court house and consequently they have stated that they don't know any of the fancy wedding things. I could understand this behavior but it's only this one aunt that she's had any issues with my asking for help. I have another aunt (my dads sister) who had a beautiful wedding that I attended as a child and my parents even had me ask my uncle (her husband) to do our engagement photos. I realize that most of this has to do with my parents not really liking that one family member however I dont know how to tell my mother, if at all, that I love both of my aunts and I really need both of their help. My mom has told me that she feels like aunt #1 is stepping on her territory. Which again could be chalked up to her not liking my aunt, but my fiance and I have some friends who want to take us to dinner because they ruined our surprise announcement (by accident) and my mom is now threatening not to throw us an engagement party because "I shouldn't have two" even though our friends just wanted to take us out for burgers to apologize. I'm worried about upsetting her all the time now and I can't even put my foot down because she cries and guilt trips me into doing things her way. She's been more of a bridezilla that we joked I would be.I don't know what to say to her, she obviously dislikes the colors we picked, she's upset my fiance got me a new ring instead of using my grandmother's (it wasn't my style and I've apologized numerous times) and the list goes on. I want to tell her it's our wedding and we're paying for it, but I'm afraid of I do she won't come at all. She walked out on me when I was getting ready for prom because I said I didn't like my hair the way she was fixing it, I don't want her to not be there at all. Any suggestions?