Bridal shower thank yous?

twostep127

Hi everyone!

This has probably been answered before, but I can't seem to find a post specifying it. My shower will take place in mid-March, but I've already received two gifts from family members who won't be able to attend. Do I send thank yous now, or wait until after the event?

I know that you're supposed to send thank yous for early wedding gifts within two weeks of receipt, but the shower thank yous have be stumped!

Thanks in advance!

thisismynickname2

I say send them now for two reasons:
1) Easier to write them as they come anyway, less overwhelming.
2) Thanking promptly is always appreciated and reassures the giver that you at least got the item. 

jacques27

Always always always thank people promptly.  Regardless of the occasion and regardless of how early a gift may come prior to the occasion.

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twostep127 said:

Hi everyone!

This has probably been answered before, but I can't seem to find a post specifying it. My shower will take place in mid-March, but I've already received two gifts from family members who won't be able to attend. Do I send thank yous now, or wait until after the event?

I know that you're supposed to send thank yous for early wedding gifts within two weeks of receipt, but the shower thank yous have be stumped!

Thanks in advance!

Send them now.

Story time.  I was invited to my cousin's shower, couldn't attend and so sent a gift.  It was just a little something, less than half what I normally spend on wedding gifts.  I was planning on sending a check in a card for the remainder of my gift.  Except I never got a thank you note; not after sending the gift, not after the shower (where presumably she opened the gift), not after the wedding (I wasn't able to attend.)  It was nearing 2 months after the wedding when I emailed my aunt to ask if my cousin ever even GOT the gift.  Like, did I have to contact Target.com to complain about a gift getting re-routed?  Aunt said yes, she got the gift, and my TY note was sitting in a giant stack of thank you notes waiting to get mailed out.  Cousin never got the 'rest' of her gift from me because she couldn't be bothered to send me my TY note in a timely manner. 

Open the gifts now, make sure nothing is broken, send out TY notes, then put the gifts away to be used after the wedding.  It'll be like another Christmas morning when you get back to your house after your wedding and get to pull out all your gifts and throw out all your old stuff.  Yay!

wellnow

Common sense to me should always reign supreme. The family members sent a gift, open it, acknowledge it with a thank you. This way they know you received it, they know there was nothing wrong with it and you appreciate them and the gift. You have it taken care of and everyone is happy.

levioosa

Definitely send a thank you now.  For all of the reasons PPs have listed.  

Jen4948

Send them now.  That will let them know that you received the gift and are acknowledging the time, money, and effort they spent on getting it and sending it to you even if they can't attend the shower.

AddieCake

A shower thank you shouldn't have you stumped any more than a gift at the wedding or a birthday gift. You send a thank you when you receive a gift. 

LtPowers

twostep127 said:

I know that you're supposed to send thank yous for early wedding gifts within two weeks of receipt

Two weeks is generous. Miss Manners allows you enough time to retrieve your stationery, no more.


Powers  &8^]

lnixon8

LtPowers said:

twostep127 said:

I know that you're supposed to send thank yous for early wedding gifts within two weeks of receipt

Two weeks is generous. Miss Manners allows you enough time to retrieve your stationery, no more.


Powers  &8^]

I would not be offended/hurt/upset/consider it rude if I got a thank you 3 weeks after.

OP I also specifically mentioned at the shower gifts that had been shipped to me if the giver was at the shower. "This will go perfectly with the Kate Spade pitcher H's Aunt Carol sent us!"