Misspelled name

JBB28

FMIL gave me her family's list of invitees several months ago. A few weeks ago she gave me the addresses to go along with those names. Between the two lists she must have realized she had misspelled one of FI's cousin's last name (she was recently married). I did not notice this change (it was one letter different) because I checked names against the original list when I made sure I didn't miss anyone. And mailed the invites a couple days ago. I noticed it when we got a gift from her in the mail yesterday. I feel horrible and I certainly don't want her to think we didn't care enough to get her name right. My question is when I send her a thank you note do I include an apology or just spell it right this time and leave it alone? I spent so much time making sure all the addresses and everything were right that it is making me sick that someone might think we don't care about them.

Casadena

personally, i would just spell it correctly on the thank you and not mention the mixup.  

glasgowtolondon

Spell it right this time and never mention it again - mistakes happen. 

glasgowtolondon

Also, just to add that you really don't need to beat yourself up about this. Like I said, mistakes happen to all of us and it's not like you or your FMIL intended to misspell the name. Move on, I'm sure the recipient noticed the mistake and then promtly forgot about it.

AddieCake

Have a cupcake and move on.

holyguacamole79

As someone whose name is always misspelled, I wouldn't think much of it.   Just send the thank you note and spell it correctly. 

PamBeesly524

Agree with PPs - this happened to me too. MIL gave me the name of her SIL's SO and was totally off on his last name, so it was spelled wrong on the STD. I learned the correct spelling before the invites went out so I corrected it for that and moved on.

JBB28

Thanks ladies! I feel much better now. Will put the right name on the thank you!

MandyMost

Happened to me too. One of now-husband's more distant relatives (he barely has any relatives, so this person was invited even though i've never met them and they're not close) we had the name misspelled for. He actually corrected it on his RSVP card he sent in. We just made sure to spell it right on the escort cards and the thank you notes!

As a side note, my mom and brother live together (house with an in-law apartment) they had recently moved into before all the wedding stuff was happening. I had their address wrong. I "discreetly" changed a 3 to a 2 on the envelopes that had already been printed. Wasn't worth a re-print to me. Mistakes happen. They both got their invites no problem. 

thefanciestbeckler

I wouldn't worry about this. The same thing happened to us. DH's family sent me a list of family members and horribly misspelled one of the families' last names. I had never met them before, so I didn't know better. I sent our save the dates with the misspelled last name but realized before invitation time that it was wrong and fixed it in the future. It happens

laurad75

Ugh, this just happened to me, except it was 100% my mistake.  I took my invites to the post office this morning and sent my mom a text 'Invites are out!'  She responds 'your cousin Jessica's new last name was spelled wrong on the shower invites so its probably wrong on your end too'.  Awesome. I called my cousin to apologize, forgave myself and had a cupcake.