Hi all-
My daughter's first birthday is coming up. I was thinking about hosting two parties- one for my husband's side of the family and another one for my side of the family. Her birthday is on a Wednesday so I was thinking doing his the weekend before and mine the weekend after. Is that a reasonable plan? We live in a condo so we have limited space (our table seats 4, our couch seats 2-3) and his family is 4-7 people and mine is 3-6 people depending who comes. Also it's great for my baby to have a smaller group so it's not as overwhelming and I feel it's better for them to have more time with her to play and hold her if there's not too many people there at once.
I also was planning to not serve my baby birthday cake twice in one week so I wasn't planning on giving it to her when his family comes over and either giving it to her on her real birthday or the next weekend when my family comes over. I'd prefer to wait until she turns 12 months or after.
I wanted to check in with your opinions on whether I'm in the clear to do this and it isn't wrong in any way to throw two separate parties or to not "let" his Mom and sister be there for watching her eat her first piece of cake.
A couple more points:
-His sister is about to move cross-country so she can't make it to a party the weekend after, it has to be the weekend before or she'll have moved already.
-I have been thinking for a long time that his Mom (and my Mom actually) might ask to host a family party for her at their house. I'd MUCH prefer to do it at our house for lots of reasons. My mom lives an hour away and his an hour further. If we have to drive around to see everyone it's much less convenient for her nap schedule and her energy. It would be lovely for my husband and I to host family in our home (we NEVER get to do that) and have all of our baby's toys and things, high chair, bed to nap in, all of our equipment is here. Plus it's just to be honest really nice for me to be able to plan and co-ordinate a birthday party for my little girl and plan the cake for her (and not be in a position where we feel like we have to give her cake etc. that someone else prepared or bought for her even if we don't want to for whatever reason) and everything and not have it taken over by others.
So suggestions welcome. I don't like the idea of having it at Grandma's house or at a public venue that can fit all of us. I don't think. (Although if the reaction I get from you guys is that two parties isn't a good plan then I guess I'll consider other options.) So I just want to see if my idea of doing two parties is ok and if it's not hurtful that we're not letting husband's family see her eat her first cake.
"It's always better when we're together."
-Jack Johnson