My fiance has wanted to go to Key West for his bachelor party for a long time. He dreams of going out fishing and just having a good time.
Thing is, we live in Tennessee and so do some of his friends. His groomsmen and some other friends live around the country. So, #1, flights will not be cheap. A house in Key West will not be cheap, and deep sea fishing definitely will not be cheap. Let alone dinner, drinks, entertainment.
A lot of his friends are getting married this year, or are already married and some have kids. I basically don't want his friends or groomsmen to resent him (or their wives!) because of the obligation they might feel to spend the dough to go. He thinks this is a "once in a lifetime" event and he thinks his buds will be happy to shell out the dough. I am not so sure. And if I was a wife of one of them I'd say "Key West? You're taking me with you, right?"
I know I should leave it up to his buddies who offered to plan it for him to speak up and say if it's too expensive or not - but as his fiance, should I get involved in any way to try and suggest an alternative? Or should I try to tell him it'd be too expensive for people? He can be sensitive so I don't want him to take it the wrong way thinking his friends won't want to go. I also don't want him thinking I don't want him to have a bachelor party because I do; I think it's important!
I would love to go to Key West for my bachelorette party - but thinking of asking my friends to spend that kind of money seems pretty selfish, so I've chosen a really super cheap (practically free) alternative.
Basically - what can a fiance's role be in this situation?
Thanks for your help!