Moms and Maids

Great BM stories

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edited March 2016 in Moms and Maids
Just a quick shout out to the amazing siblings, future-in-laws, and friends whom we are proud to have at our side as we get married. 

I've really been so happy with my BMs throughout the whole wedding planning process thus far. They all live far away, so I am just so honored to know they'll be there beside me. But they really have gone above and beyond -- they are all dear friends who have been nothing but supportive. My MOH recently reached out to me and surprised me that she has been trying to set up a bachelorette party the evening before the wedding rehearsal, which would be easiest for most of the BMs interested since they can just do one trip. I have no idea where or what we're doing yet -- and don't need to. She and the other BMs are taking initiative and I'm just humbled by their thoughtfulness. My MOH and I have been best friends since middle-school, know one another's families and other friends well, and have been through so much together. We don't always see eye to eye on everything, but we know each other so well, and even though we may go years at a time without seeing one another now, when we do get together, it's like no time has lapsed at all. It's cliche, but she really is the sister I've never had in my life and I am so happy she is my MOH. 

Also, one of my BMs is a dear friend from undergrad, but whom I got to know best and really develop a deep friendship with in graduate school when I met and started dating FI. She was newly engaged at the time, and I was a BM for her. She has been so supportive, and has impromptu sent me several things in the mail (wedding mags, a "Guidesbook for the Groom", and her old underskirt so I didn't have to buy one [we used to swap clothes all the time, so she knew we were the same size!]). 

What are some of your favorite stories of your BMs and MOHs (either wedding related or not)? We all hear lots of the negative (either brides who don't give enough love and respect for their WP, or occasionally, some BSC bridal party members), so I thought it would be nice to have a place to share some of the positive stories about the amazing people who have been/ will be our highest guests of honor. 

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Re: Great BM stories

  • I agree that we always hear so much about the negatives and it's time to talk up the positives stories!

    One of my bridesmaids is a single mom, doesn't have much money, and lives about an hour away from me. She has taken it upon herself to plan my bachelorette party, making sure it's going to be tailored to me and will be, her words, "perfect". And you know what? It will be, knowing how much love and thought she is putting into it (her daughter also helped to make the invitations for the bachelorette party so I am excited to see what they look like!). She has also said she will do whatever she can to make sure she is there for every pre-wedding event I want her at because she wants to be there to support me and celebrate with me. Just knowing she has so much going on in her own life but she's still willing to do this for me means the world to me.

    Another of my bridesmaids lives on the other side of the country from me (I'm in MN, she's in VA) but has sent me frequent text messages asking if I need anything, offering her help, and just generally checking in. She and her husband are also planing on coming into town a few days before the wedding and renting a car so she can help with whatever I need. I would never ask that of her, and have no plans to take advantage of her generous and kind offer and put her to work, but knowing she is willing means so much.

    I could go on and on about my bridesmaids- I just feel like a lucky girl to have my most important people to stand with me on my wedding day. I love them and appreciate them so much!
  • This is an awesome thread idea. I have had nothing but great times with my bridesmaids. My cousin, specifically, has been an amazing person throughout my whole planning process. She just had a baby a couple of months ago, and still is taking it upon herself to plan my bachelorette party. Her and I are very different in terms of taste and ideas of fun, but I've heard through the grapevine that she is putting so much effort into planning something that I'll love. And, I will. The fact that she's putting so much effort into giving me a memorable day (especially when there are so many -in my opinion, more important - things going on for her) is so humbling.

    All of my girls have been a great source of support for me, and I'm so appreciative to have such great friends. 
  • So I want to share two things about my best friend since we were 5, one from the point of view of being her maid of honor and now that I'm in the beginning phase of planning my own wedding. 

    As the bride she went way beyond what I was expecting. I couldn't make it to the bachorlete party because I couldn't afford it and She was not thrilled but understood and didn't give me a hard time about it. She asked all the bridal party what we could spend on a dress then when the other bridesmaids went dress shopping (I couldn't go I live in a different state) they picked out a dress that was in their budget but more then I said I could spend. She called me and instead of telling me I had to get that dress she said this is how much it costs and these are the ideas I have. Your the maid of honor so you don't have to match and I know you don't have a lot of money to spend (at the time I was a single mom with 2 kids and working for minimum wage after taking the first job I could find from getting laid off of a good job) she tells me she was willing to pay the difference of what I could afford to buy the same dress and I could get it in the same color or a different color or we could find me a different dress all together. I told her let me see what I could do first and then my mom offered to buy the dress for me since we had pretty much grown up in each others houses. So my friend and I decided I would get the darker color of the same dress as the bridesmaids. Fast forward to 3 weeks before her wedding and my dress hasn't arrived. I go to inquire were it is and find out its on back order and won't arrive until after the wedding from the website. There was a store near my mom so she went in the store and they don't have my size of the dress in stock at the store. So I was very upset and I decide I'm going to have to back out of the wedding. I call my friend and I tell her what is going on and her response was ok lets find you a dress! We spent most the night on the phone searching the internet for a dress that would arrive on time and then she kept insisting on buying it for me herself because we couldn't get a refund for the first dress she told me give the first dress to a girl who needs a prom dress that can't afford one.

    Then the day of the wedding we can't figure out how to bustle her wedding dress. Her mom is freaking out and my oldest daughter who came with me kept telling my friend how pretty she looked and playing with the flower girl. My friend called my daughter over and asked her "Do you know how in the movies there is a little girl who walks behind the bride and holds her dress up?" my daughter said yes and my friend said well would you do that for me? My daughter was thrilled to upgraded from a guest at the last minute and my friend even took a picture with her holding the dress when we took pictures and sent her a thank you gift a few days latter.

    Now that she is my maid of honor I told her what we were talking about playing and that we were working on a budget and she told me she had been to a wedding recently that was similar to what we were planning and she called that bride and asked how much they actually spent so that we could plan a realistic budget. 
  • Sounds like you have a great friend there!
  • I haven't had my wedding yet, and I'm still in the process of asking the rest of my party, but I've already asked my Maid of Honor and she is fabulous. I have been engaged without planning anything for over a year, I didn't ask her in that time and I know she was wondering about it. She had already decided she was going to throw me a shower weather she was in the party or not. She is a wonderful host, I take a lot of cues from her, as well as a great friend.  I honestly don't know why she doubted if she would be in my party, she is my person!
  • I love my wedding party so much, they have all been so fantastic! All 3 are going together to plan my bridal shower and bachelorette party. My MOH is also getting married this year so bouncing ideas off of each other and being able to help each other plan has been great. One of the my other bridesmaids has offered to help with literally anything I need, and though I haven't taken her up on it, it is so nice to know that someone is willing! My third bridesmaid lives about 5 hours away, and has came into town to shop for dresses, and will be coming home again for my shower and bachelorette party. They have all 3 been great about giving opinions on things and always asking how things are going and if there's anything they can do to help. So glad I chose my 3 closest and oldest friends for my bridesmaids :)
  • On my wedding day, after a couple hours of pre-wedding pictures (standing in 4 inch heels the whole time), my BM and oldest friend gave me an impromptu foot rub. 
    Now THAT'S friendship. 

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