Early afternoon ceremony --- reception timing??

Knottie71109975

My fiance and I are having our wedding ceremony at 2pm. We have our reception venue for six hours. We don't want to start anything too early because we don't want our party to end too early! I am trying to figure out timing, but then I am worried about what guests will do in between the time the ceremony ends (3:00) and when cocktail hour would begin. I was thinking about starting cocktail hour around 5:30pm. 

Help!

climbingsingle

Your cocktail hour needs to begin as soon as your ceremony is over. There should be no gap. 

I had an afternoon wedding. My ceremony and reception were at the same venue. 
Ceremony began at 12pm. As soon as the ceremony was over, our guests walked to the parlor where our cocktail hour was held. Reception was over by 6pm. Our event was held at a resort, so we all ended up hanging out first in a few of the rooms, and then down at one of the resort bars. If you don't want your event to end so early, you can have an after party. But please don't work in a gap to your day! It's very rude to your guests. 

Maggie0829

Gaps are rude.  Period.

If your ceremony is at 2pm then your cocktail hour should start as soon as the first person arrives at your reception venue.

If you don't want the party to end early, then make plans to go out to a local bar afterwards.  But you don't just put in a gap because you don't want your reception to end early.

MyNameIsNot

Knottie71109975 said:

My fiance and I are having our wedding ceremony at 2pm. We have our reception venue for six hours. We don't want to start anything too early because we don't want our party to end too early! I am trying to figure out timing, but then I am worried about what guests will do in between the time the ceremony ends (3:00) and when cocktail hour would begin. I was thinking about starting cocktail hour around 5:30pm. 

Help!

Leaving a gap between the ceremony and reception is extremely rude. Your reception/cocktail hour should start immediately after the ceremony, accounting for any travel time.

Our ceremony was at 2, because that's what the church offered. Ceremony was about an hour, travel was about 30 minutes, so cocktail hour started at 3:30. (Space opened at 3, but bar opened at 3:30). We front loaded the reception with toasts and dances, so dinner was actually served at about 5:15. After dinner, it shifted to dance party until we ended at 9:00.

The 9:00 ending actually worked perfectly. The older guests and those with little kids didn't feel like they had to leave early, while the "party people" had plenty of time for an after-party. 

CMGragain

This is a Catholic wedding isn't it?  No excuse!  You need to plan your reception to start within half an hour after your ceremony ends.  Dinner at 5:00. Traditionally, you wouldn't have a dinner reception at all for this time of day.  You would have sandwiches, cake and punch.

Jen4948

Knottie71109975 said:

My fiance and I are having our wedding ceremony at 2pm. We have our reception venue for six hours. We don't want to start anything too early because we don't want our party to end too early! I am trying to figure out timing, but then I am worried about what guests will do in between the time the ceremony ends (3:00) and when cocktail hour would begin. I was thinking about starting cocktail hour around 5:30pm. 

Help!

You need to plan for your reception to begin as soon as the ceremony is over, with no gaps in between.

If the ceremony is ending at 3pm, then serve drinks, sandwiches, and desserts.  Or move up the ceremony so that it ends at 5:30pm if that is when you want it to end.  But guests cannot be unhosted between the end of the ceremony and beginning of the reception.

banana468

How long of a drive is it to your reception venue?   Can you do a receiving line?

We had a 2 PM ceremony and a 4 PM reception.   It actually had no gap.  Between the long-winded priest who made the Mass last closer to the 1:15 minute mark, the receiving line and the 20 minute drive,  the guests had maybe 10 minutes (and that's pushing it) before 4 PM.   And while we said 4, they were hosted from the moment they arrived with cocktails and food flowing right away.   The DJ's music started at 4.   

When you say you have the venue for 6 hours, does that mean it includes set up and take down?   Or can you host a 6 hour event?   Our event was 6 hours so it ended at 10 PM which worked out well.

Depending on proximity to your ceremony venue and ability to do a receiving line (some locations don't allow them for timing issues) I'd think your reception needs to start no later than 3:30/4:00.   There's no way that 5:30 will work. 

MobKaz

CMGragain said:

This is a Catholic wedding isn't it?  No excuse!  You need to plan your reception to start within half an hour after your ceremony ends.  Dinner at 5:00. Traditionally, you wouldn't have a dinner reception at all for this time of day.  You would have sandwiches, cake and punch.

Hey there!  Let's not leap to conclusions and perpetuate the urban legend that is the "Catholic Gap".  I have been invited to secular and Jewish wedding ceremonies that CHOSE to create a gap.  You are right, however.  There is NO excuse for a gap.  Period.

monkeysip

We had a 2pm ceremony and our reception officially started at 3:45, although the venue was letting guests come in early if they arrived early.  But we had a catholic wedding, and the guests kind of hung out for a while talking before they drove to the reception venue, so the time worked out fine.  They have cocktail hour from 3:45-4:45, when H and I came in and did our first dance.  The first course of dinner was served around 5.  The reception ended at 9, which was a nice length.

However you do it--no gap!

ernursej

Although gaps may be common, they are rude. I never know what to do during the time. Either move up the ceremony or start the reception earlier.

Knottie71949479

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

ernursej

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

@Knottie71949479, please don't encourage someone to be rude just because something is common. Even though we are not on the etiquette board, all the boards are very pro-etiquette.

Knottie71949479

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

@Knottie71949479, please don't encourage someone to be rude just because something is common. Even though we are not on the etiquette board, all the boards are very pro-etiquette.

You have an opinion that something is rude. I personally don't think it is rude. It's logistics that are beyond her control. Please stop responding to my posts, as I don't value your opinions anymore. They are complete negativity on every thread you post in. 

ernursej

Knottie71949479 said:

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

@Knottie71949479, please don't encourage someone to be rude just because something is common. Even though we are not on the etiquette board, all the boards are very pro-etiquette.

You have an opinion that something is rude. I personally don't think it is rude. It's logistics that are beyond her control. Please stop responding to my posts, as I don't value your opinions anymore. They are complete negativity on every thread you post in. 

I have the same opinion as most of the Knotties on this site which is that etiquette is never wrong. Logistics are never out of a bride's control ... usually it is because something is wanted but it could be done differently.

There are very few (perhaps 1-2) rude Knotties on this site and I'm not one of them. My posts are always well thought out to encourage newbies to stick around. I'm sorry that you took my responses as rude. When you post on the internet, you have no control over what is posted back. Responses may contain messages that you do not like or didn't think you would get.

I will continue to post when and how I feel. You should really look at my posting history and you will see that I'm not rude but usually quite understanding that things are sometimes done or perceived as okay in the wedding industry when really, they are quite rude. I encourage people to stick around to get free advice from an unbiased group of people that love weddings.

I do hope you will stick around. Many people come and get taken back by their first post. They stick around and find out that we usually have great ideas and are extremely supportive.

glasgowtolondon

Knottie71949479 said:

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

@Knottie71949479, please don't encourage someone to be rude just because something is common. Even though we are not on the etiquette board, all the boards are very pro-etiquette.

You have an opinion that something is rude. I personally don't think it is rude. It's logistics that are beyond her control. Please stop responding to my posts, as I don't value your opinions anymore. They are complete negativity on every thread you post in. 

Etiquette isn't a matter of opinion, gaps are rude regardless of the fact that they may be common. The logistics are within the OP's control, she just doesnt want her reception to end earlier. This is her choice. How unfortunate that you find properly hosting guests to be negative.

Oh and guess what, you don't get to tell another poster what they can and can't respond to and how to do so. Thats not how this works. Soooooorrrrryyyyy! (notsorry) 

Eta: words

JediElizabeth

Knottie71949479 said:

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

@Knottie71949479, please don't encourage someone to be rude just because something is common. Even though we are not on the etiquette board, all the boards are very pro-etiquette.

You have an opinion that something is rude. I personally don't think it is rude. It's logistics that are beyond her control. Please stop responding to my posts, as I don't value your opinions anymore. They are complete negativity on every thread you post in. 

Can I respond to your posts? Do I have permission???

Gaps are rude. Period. Especially several hour ones. 

Knottie71949479

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

@Knottie71949479, please don't encourage someone to be rude just because something is common. Even though we are not on the etiquette board, all the boards are very pro-etiquette.

You have an opinion that something is rude. I personally don't think it is rude. It's logistics that are beyond her control. Please stop responding to my posts, as I don't value your opinions anymore. They are complete negativity on every thread you post in. 

I have the same opinion as most of the Knotties on this site which is that etiquette is never wrong. Logistics are never out of a bride's control ... usually it is because something is wanted but it could be done differently.

There are very few (perhaps 1-2) rude Knotties on this site and I'm not one of them. My posts are always well thought out to encourage newbies to stick around. I'm sorry that you took my responses as rude. When you post on the internet, you have no control over what is posted back. Responses may contain messages that you do not like or didn't think you would get.

I will continue to post when and how I feel. You should really look at my posting history and you will see that I'm not rude but usually quite understanding that things are sometimes done or perceived as okay in the wedding industry when really, they are quite rude. I encourage people to stick around to get free advice from an unbiased group of people that love weddings.

I do hope you will stick around. Many people come and get taken back by their first post. They stick around and find out that we usually have great ideas and are extremely supportive.

You wouldn't call a bride rude to her face, don't do it online either. Wedding planning is a stressful time for many. Brides come here to ask for our opinion. Not to get chewed up and spit out. I've been around. No, I don't have all those numbers next to my name, and quite frankly I don't even know what those mean. I've been reading these forums since I got engaged, almost a year now. I've got a lot of advice from threads and I've seen some pretty disgusting commentary. I will not be a part of that. You want to tell this bride the proper etiquette, then do so. It's unnecessary and disrespectful to call someone rude and to call out a fellow bride stating her opinion on a forum. 

glasgowtolondon

@Knottie71949479When someone asks for advice, goes out of their way to solicit advice from a group of people on a forum, they may not like the advice they get. Such is life. That advice may be that their plans are rude and they should adjust them. Whether you like it or not that IS advice, and better to come from internet strangers than have your guests side eye you, right? If someone can't handle that then obviously this isn't the place for them, no glitter blown up anyones arse here. There is a difference between telling someone their plans or ideas are rude and calling them, personally, rude and you can sometimes read comments with a more negative tone than a poster intended when you feel personally slighted. I'm surprised that you've hung around for a whole year when you see so much that disgusts you, so we can't be all bad.

levioosa

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Nope. Gaps are rude.  Period.  

Etiquette is about treating your guests well, not about tradition. A guest must be hosted for the entirety of the reception.  It is rude to make them fend for themselves for a few hours.  What, pray tell, about the ceremony is so completely taxing that the guests need to freshen up?  Spoiler alert: it's about the couple putting their vision ahead of their guests so they can take pictures for a few hours and drink.  

As a guest, I don't need a few hours to putter around.  I'm here to celebrate with you, not be abandoned while you prioritize your time over mine.  

Knottie71949479

Well, sometimes gaps happen. Go ahead and be miserable the next time you're at a wedding with a gap. I won't be!

levioosa

Knottie71949479 said:

Well, sometimes gaps happen. Go ahead and be miserable the next time you're at a wedding with a gap. I won't be!

Good for you.  It still doesn't change the fact that it is rude and inconsiderate to guests.  

crowsgirl15

Knottie71949479 said:

Well, sometimes gaps happen. Go ahead and be miserable the next time you're at a wedding with a gap. I won't be!

Gaps don't "happen". Brides choose their "vision", usually of an evening reception, over the comfort and consideration of their guests. Of course they can do that if they want to, but it's still rude behavior no matter how you slice it.

CMGragain

OK,  I get it.  Knottie 71949479 has a WEDDING VISION, and that vision includes a dinner reception.  All her guests should understand that THIS IS HER VISION, and they should be happy to be inconvenienced because it is HER DAY.  Etiquette does not apply to Knottie 71949479, because she is a speshul snowflake, and she is the bride, so she can do whatever she wants and nobody should be offended because her plans are rude.

1.  If you want to have a wedding that is completely about you, then do not invite guests.

2.  If you do want guests, then their comfort, convenience and well-being is your primary concern when making plans.

3.  Anything that inconveniences your guests is, by definition, rude.

4.  Your guests will not express their annoyance to you because they don't want to hurt your feelings, so they will lie and say that everything was wonderful.  They will tell each other the truth later, and it will get around.

5.  We give advice about wedding plans here on The Knot all the time.  We do not know you or care about you.  We tell the truth.  If we cared about you, we might be tempted to lie, but you are not worth the bother.  There are plenty of brides who have thanked us for preventing them from making huge etiquette mistakes.
If you want to go ahead with your gap plans, that is your decision, but do not expect any of us to tell you that this is OK, because it isn't.

Knottie71949479

CMGragain said:

OK,  I get it.  Knottie 71949479 has a WEDDING VISION, and that vision includes a dinner reception.  All her guests should understand that THIS IS HER VISION, and they should be happy to be inconvenienced because it is HER DAY.  Etiquette does not apply to Knottie 71949479, because she is a speshul snowflake, and she is the bride, so she can do whatever she wants and nobody should be offended because her plans are rude.

1.  If you want to have a wedding that is completely about you, then do not invite guests.

2.  If you do want guests, then their comfort, convenience and well-being is your primary concern when making plans.

3.  Anything that inconveniences your guests is, by definition, rude.

4.  Your guests will not express their annoyance to you because they don't want to hurt your feelings, so they will lie and say that everything was wonderful.  They will tell each other the truth later, and it will get around.

5.  We give advice about wedding plans here on The Knot all the time.  We do not know you or care about you.  We tell the truth.  If we cared about you, we might be tempted to lie, but you are not worth the bother.  There are plenty of brides who have thanked us for preventing them from making huge etiquette mistakes.
If you want to go ahead with your gap plans, that is your decision, but do not expect any of us to tell you that this is OK, because it isn't.

CMGragain said:

OK,  I get it.  Knottie 71949479 has a WEDDING VISION, and that vision includes a dinner reception.  All her guests should understand that THIS IS HER VISION, and they should be happy to be inconvenienced because it is HER DAY.  Etiquette does not apply to Knottie 71949479, because she is a speshul snowflake, and she is the bride, so she can do whatever she wants and nobody should be offended because her plans are rude.

1.  If you want to have a wedding that is completely about you, then do not invite guests.

2.  If you do want guests, then their comfort, convenience and well-being is your primary concern when making plans.

3.  Anything that inconveniences your guests is, by definition, rude.

4.  Your guests will not express their annoyance to you because they don't want to hurt your feelings, so they will lie and say that everything was wonderful.  They will tell each other the truth later, and it will get around.

5.  We give advice about wedding plans here on The Knot all the time.  We do not know you or care about you.  We tell the truth.  If we cared about you, we might be tempted to lie, but you are not worth the bother.  There are plenty of brides who have thanked us for preventing them from making huge etiquette mistakes.
If you want to go ahead with your gap plans, that is your decision, but do not expect any of us to tell you that this is OK, because it isn't.

Hi! I'm so sorry, but maybe you should read the thread. This is not my post, nor my wedding. I just simply stated my opinion. But thanks for the insults! You actually insulted the original poster, not I! 

CMGragain

Oops.  I do apologize.  You are correct.  My post was directed at the OP.  All those numbers get confusing.

About logistics being beyond the OP's control, nope!  First you set your ceremony time.  Then you arrange your reception to co-ordinate with that time.  The ceremony is the important part of the day.
If you first plan a dinner reception, and then discover that you cannot have an evening ceremony, you need to change your plans to accommodate your guests needs - have an afternoon reception.  Holding on to the vision of a dinner ceremony is what is rude.

Telling people not to reply to your post is also rude.

ernursej

Knottie71949479 said:

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

ernursej said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I've been to several weddings where there is a gap. It's very common. This may give guests a chance to go back to their hotel room/home to change and freshen up before the reception. Your gap is only two hours. I've been to some that are longer. I wouldn't say it is "rude". enjoy your day!

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

@Knottie71949479, please don't encourage someone to be rude just because something is common. Even though we are not on the etiquette board, all the boards are very pro-etiquette.

You have an opinion that something is rude. I personally don't think it is rude. It's logistics that are beyond her control. Please stop responding to my posts, as I don't value your opinions anymore. They are complete negativity on every thread you post in. 

I have the same opinion as most of the Knotties on this site which is that etiquette is never wrong. Logistics are never out of a bride's control ... usually it is because something is wanted but it could be done differently.

There are very few (perhaps 1-2) rude Knotties on this site and I'm not one of them. My posts are always well thought out to encourage newbies to stick around. I'm sorry that you took my responses as rude. When you post on the internet, you have no control over what is posted back. Responses may contain messages that you do not like or didn't think you would get.

I will continue to post when and how I feel. You should really look at my posting history and you will see that I'm not rude but usually quite understanding that things are sometimes done or perceived as okay in the wedding industry when really, they are quite rude. I encourage people to stick around to get free advice from an unbiased group of people that love weddings.

I do hope you will stick around. Many people come and get taken back by their first post. They stick around and find out that we usually have great ideas and are extremely supportive.

You wouldn't call a bride rude to her face, don't do it online either. Wedding planning is a stressful time for many. Brides come here to ask for our opinion. Not to get chewed up and spit out. I've been around. No, I don't have all those numbers next to my name, and quite frankly I don't even know what those mean. I've been reading these forums since I got engaged, almost a year now. I've got a lot of advice from threads and I've seen some pretty disgusting commentary. I will not be a part of that. You want to tell this bride the proper etiquette, then do so. It's unnecessary and disrespectful to call someone rude and to call out a fellow bride stating her opinion on a forum. 

Actually, my friends are quite happy coming to me with their wedding questions as I usually answer politely, but without reserve. I've directed several of my friends to this site and have thankful avoided a gap, matchy-matchy everything maids attire in the wedding party and a tiered reception. Nothing that I have said is chewing you up and spitting you out. Come to my Emergency Department and you will see individuals get chewed up on Friday and Saturday nights by intoxicated individuals and those without control. This forum is very different from that environment. When someone starts calling you names (being called rude is nowhere near the names I hear) and spitting on you directly ... then you have something to complain about. All this back and forth is because you don't agree with something that several Knotties are saying.

If you don't like what you are reading, stop visiting this site. A very easy solution to your concern. You say you don't want to be a part of 'it' then delete your account. You are not being forced to read posts or contribute to this site.

charlotte989875

ernursej said:

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

I hate it when hosts make me find my own people to do during gaps.

ernursej

charlotte989875 said:

ernursej said:

Gaps of ANY length are rude. If I have to spend time spinning my wheels or coming up with someone to do during this time, it is rude of the host to put me in that position. If you are immediately opening up the reception venue for cocktails and just allowing time to get from ceremony to reception venue, then this is appropriate. Gaps have developed because people feel like they need a million photos and can't seem to get them all in before the ceremony. What if I don't have a hotel room and can't go anywhere to freshen up ... then I am just having to waste my time getting a coffee I really didn't need or going to a mall dressed to the nines to wander while I wait? Gaps are common, but they are rude.

I hate it when hosts make me find my own people to do during gaps.

Hahahahaha! Whoops ... meant something to do. But gah, really inconsiderate that they don't line up choices for me to take back to my non-existent hotel room. Now THAT is rude!

Extra - My FI just blew wine through his nose when I told him about my whoops. Now I have to help clean up wine. How rude!

justsie

I will never understand how someone can feel so entitled to peoples time. You don't think Grandma and Grandpa would like to do something other than twittle their thumbs in their room while they wait for dinner? People came to see you get married and enjoy time with you, not sit in their hotel room or try and find something to do. 

Knottie71949479

Ya'll need to find something to do. Read a book, travel, find a hobby, do something. You all posted the same exact thing, none of which I care about, as this is not my post. I don't even have a gap in my day! Most of the names on this thread I've seen arguing on several other posts, so I'm sure this is thrilling for you and what you do on a typical Sunday evening. I'm here solely for advice for my wedding from real people, and to possibly give my two cents to a fellow bride. I'm not here for the etiquette police. 

This is is my final post on this thread. I sure do hope you all learn to enjoy life a little more. It's too short to be ruining you day when you have a few hours to spare at a wedding. Oh, maybe you could use that time to read that book I was talking about! 

crowsgirl15

Knottie71949479 said:

Ya'll need to find something to do. Read a book, travel, find a hobby, do something. You all posted the same exact thing, none of which I care about, as this is not my post. I don't even have a gap in my day! Most of the names on this thread I've seen arguing on several other posts, so I'm sure this is thrilling for you and what you do on a typical Sunday evening. I'm here solely for advice for my wedding from real people, and to possibly give my two cents to a fellow bride. I'm not here for the etiquette police. 

Oh and, I'm not sure wine has to come out of your nose when you misspell a word on a forum. Gasp!!! That's a bit extreme and unnecessary. You need to relax. Maybe you should go drink a glass of wine. 

This is is my final post on this thread. I sure do hope you all learn to enjoy life a little more. It's too short to be ruining you day when you have a few hours to spare at a wedding. Oh, maybe you could use that time to read that book I was talking about! 

That awkward moment when you realize you're not a real person...what am I doing with my life?!