My maid of honor wants a list of the girls I'd like at my bachelorette party and I'm having a bit of a pickle. My fiance's good friend got married last year. His wife invited me to her bachelorette party, but not her shower. We talk at parties and go out on double dates but we've never hung out without our significant others. I was surprised when she invited me to her bachelorette party, as we're not super close gal pals. However, a mutual friend of ours was invited to her bachelorette party two months before I was, which makes me think I was probably a filler because closer friends of hers couldn't make it. SO my question is, would it be a snub if I invited her to my shower and NOT my bachelorette party? I kind of always pictured it being just my 10 closest girl friends, hanging out at a lake house. I think she's the sweetest girl but we've just never really clicked. I'd hate to hurt her feelings. What should I do?