Bachelorette Party Question

brideine08

My maid of honor wants a list of the girls I'd like at my bachelorette party and I'm having a bit of a pickle. My fiance's good friend got married last year. His wife invited me to her bachelorette party, but not her shower. We talk at parties and go out on double dates but we've never hung out without our significant others. I was surprised when she invited me to her bachelorette party, as we're not super close gal pals. However, a mutual friend of ours was invited to her bachelorette party two months before I was, which makes me think I was probably a filler because closer friends of hers couldn't make it. SO my question is, would it be a snub if I invited her to my shower and NOT my bachelorette party? I kind of always pictured it being just my 10 closest girl friends, hanging out at a lake house. I think she's the sweetest girl but we've just never really clicked. I'd hate to hurt her feelings. What should I do?

STARMOON44

Invite her to your shower, if you would like her to come, and not to your bachelorette. It's fine. 

Maggie0829

Do not base if you invite her to your party just because you were invited to hers (or when you were invited to hers).  Invite her either because you want her to come or you don't.  Don't make this any more complicated then it has to be.

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brideine08 said:

My maid of honor wants a list of the girls I'd like at my bachelorette party and I'm having a bit of a pickle. My fiance's good friend got married last year. His wife invited me to her bachelorette party, but not her shower. We talk at parties and go out on double dates but we've never hung out without our significant others. I was surprised when she invited me to her bachelorette party, as we're not super close gal pals. However, a mutual friend of ours was invited to her bachelorette party two months before I was, which makes me think I was probably a filler because closer friends of hers couldn't make it. SO my question is, would it be a snub if I invited her to my shower and NOT my bachelorette party? I kind of always pictured it being just my 10 closest girl friends, hanging out at a lake house. I think she's the sweetest girl but we've just never really clicked. I'd hate to hurt her feelings. What should I do?

Invitations are not tit for tat.  Invite who you want there.  Done.

SP29

Perfectly fine not to invite her. IME, bacchelorette parties are a little more of an intimate group of friends.

photokitty

If your no close to her, I wouldn't invite her to either. If I were her I would find the invite to the shower gift grabby. I think showers are nearest and dearest, bachrlorette are more open bc gifts aren't involved.

Sammy1112

I think bachelorette parties are for your nearest & dearest.