The day my fiancé and I became engaged, my SIL's mother sarcastically responded "I don't think so" to my mother and I when I asked if she was coming to our wedding. I've held this in for 9 months and never shared it with my brother or my SIL as they would not believe me.
Fast forward to recently when my SIL texted me and asked if her parents and sibling were invited. I non maliciously explained to her the uncomfortable response I received from her mother and specially said I did not want this to turn into an argument and told her I would not be inviting them (BTW we are having a wedding of under 75 and are paying for it ourselves) as my feelings were hurt with the comment that was made.
She proceeded to verbally attack me on text and said that I had some nerve taking it upon my self to not invite her family as she thought we were "all family" and that I still should've sent an invite, regardless and dismissing her mother's behavior. I told her I thought we were family until her mother made this comment and that this was our wedding so I have every right to make guest list decisions. She then stated that I shouldn't bother sending her an invite because her and my brother would not be attending because her parents were not invited and I should get a life.
PS..their children were in our wedding...PPS at her wedding I wasn't even allowed to bring a guest because I wasn't "engaged or married " at the time and I respected that decision and still attended.
My fiancé and I still stand by our decision..any thoughts?