My wedding is getting very close (yay!) and I'm dealing with what seems to be fairly common--guests who will not RSVP. I'll admit, the first few times someone responded with a text or just face-to-face rather than using the pre-stamped, addressed RSVP cards I included in their invitations, I was a bit annoyed. Now I'd gladly accept a carrier pigeon if it meant I would know how many people to count.
My RSVP deadline has just passed and my FI, mother, and I have spent the past day contacting guests who we never heard from to find out if they are coming or not. We have managed to make contact with nearly all of these guests--most of which said they'd lost it or they've been meaning to send it back in. No one told us they mailed it in and it must have been lost (which is what I was expecting had happened).
Out of exactly 100 invitations we mailed out, we only received approximately 40 RSVP cards back before the deadline. So we have had A LOT of people we've had to contact which has been super frustrating. Now we only have 7 invitations (which comes to 15 people) we have not gotten any sort of response from. My question is, do we pay to have 2 extra tables and enough chairs to accommodate these MIA guests or just give up on them and if they show up they're SOL? I'm leaning towards the former, but my FI is adamant that they have missed the boat on this one.
Our venue does not have their own tables and chairs and they actually have to rent these (as well as table linens) from some other company that I have no contact with. So, whatever number we tell them as our final guest count--that's how many tables/chairs will be there and there will be no way to get a hold of more at the last minute. Our contract also says that that this number cannot be changed (either more or less) once they have placed their order with this outside rental company. What do I do? Each table will have 8 guest place settings, so that equals two additional tables and 16 chairs that we have to pay for, but may not get used. (That doesn't even include the expense of the possibly extra meals we will have to pay for).